Apps like Tinder, Hinge and Bumble are great for anyone looking to form a connection with others and can be a lot of fun! But with so many users and so many different goals for these users, the effects these apps can have on you may not be apparent at first glance. Here are some aspects of using dating apps that aren’t discussed all that much.
- a chance to explore
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From distance settings to all of the crazy detailed preferences paid users can access, who knows who you’ll find on here! For some, this is an awesome chance to test the waters and see what type of relationship you’re looking for. For others, it helps narrow down what you do and don’t want in a partner. Have fun with it, but make sure you’re doing so in a way that doesn’t hurt your dates!
- complicated sense of self-worth
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Lots of likes mean I’m super hot! No likes mean I’m ugly. Lots of matches mean people are into me! No matches mean everyone hates me, and I’ll be alone forever.
Feelings like these are way too common among dating app users. Try not to fall into the trap of overgeneralizing the results of your time on dating apps; it’ll totally mess with your head. Remember: quality over quantity, regardless of what your friends might say.
- Pressure? never heard of her
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Who doesn’t love a low-stakes convo? Dating apps are the rare instance where hiding behind a screen may actually work in your favor. Texting gives you time to craft your flirtations and make awkward silences impossible (until you meet IRL, of course). For all of the anxious besties out there, this is a game-changer for starting and continuing conversations. And if you’re not feeling it, you can always give them the old digital Irish goodbye.
- regrets
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Ah, don’t we all just loooove attention? Unfortunately, sometimes this obsession gets us into trouble with our future selves. Before doing the no-pants-dance with someone you just met, maybe try asking yourself how you’ll feel about the decision tomorrow. No shame in having some casual fun, but make sure it’s in your best interest and not just what will lead to a text once the date is over.
At the end of the day, dating apps can be a ton of fun and even lead to meaningful relationships. Everyone’s dating app experiences are different so don’t give up just because your most recent match is a dry texter. It’s super important to remember that YOU are priority number one and to take care of yourself!
Regardless of what your time on dating apps may lead you to believe, you’re hot AND worthy of love.