I’m just going to say it – most guys suck. Finding a great guy in this generation is nearly impossible. It feels like you’re running headfirst into a field of red flags, and I’ll be real, I’ve missed almost every single one. I was naive only seeing the best in every guy. I used to convince myself that “he would never do me like that.” Spoiler alert: he did. I couldn’t see the red flags even when they looked me right in the face.
After having gone through some eye-opening experiences, it’s safe to say I’ve learned to recognize the red flags I kept missing. Here are a few that I’ve noticed:
IF HE’S A PISCES BORN IN MARCH
This one is VERY specific, but I have my reasons. I don’t know too much about zodiac signs, but one thing I’ve learned for sure is that Pisces men are a no-go. Maybe it was just my horrible taste in men, but somehow, 3/4 of my past relationships were with Pisces men born in March, and all of them had the same tendencies. They were all liars. They all had anger issues. And all of them were controlling. Enough said. The lesson learned was NEVER again.
“I’M NOT LIKE THE REST”
If a guy says this, believe him – he’s not like the rest; he’s worse! Any guy who insists he’s “not like the rest”, or “would never do you like that”, 9/10 will do you like that.
Almost every guy has that phrase in their back pocket. It’s really just a cheap attempt to persuade us into giving them a chance, which I might have fell for… more than a few times.
IF HE’S FRIENDS WITH AN EX OR SOMEONE HE USED TO TALK TO
If he’s friends with his ex or someone he used to have feelings for, chances are one of them still has feelings for the other. If you ask him about it he might say things like “It’s not like that”, but most of the time it is like that. Trust me, the relationship was over before it even started.
IF HE’S A LITTLE TOO PERFECT IN THE BEGINNING
If he seems a little too perfect right off the bat, he’s probably love-bombing you. Some guys will give you their all at the start, showering you with compliments and sweet gestures to win you over. But once they’ve got you, you can kiss that “perfect guy” goodbye. Almost every guy I dated did this, and absolutely none of them ended up being the sweet and “perfect” guy that they were in the beginning.
APOLOGIZES WITHOUT CHANGing
I had to learn this the hard way… it’s manipulation. He had me believing that he would change and get better at communicating. He promised that he’d work on it, but of course, he didn’t.
If he’s constantly apologizing without following-through, it’s time to recognize it for what it really is. He’s just telling you what you want to hear.
IF HE FOLLOWS EVERY GIRL’S SPAM
RUN. If you’re scrolling through his following and your’e seeing spam after spam after spam, its time to unfollow and block. He’s way too friendly and definitely not the one for you. Don’t even consider it.
IF HE MAKES EVERYTHING SEXUAL
Girl, he does not want to get to know you and is definitely only there for one thing. You should never take these type of guys serious. If he cannot have a conversation without turning it into something sexual, he is not emotionally mature enough so don’t even waste your time.