As most women are aware, beauty standards are an ever-changing ideology, mainly formed nowadays by social media, fashion branding and, of course, the patriarchy. The media that we consume significantly influences the interpretation of body ânormsâ or âgoalsâ. In the 2000s, Regina George and Bridget Jones (infamous characters from Mean Girls and Bridget Jonesâ Diary) are just two examples of women who become or are deemed âfatâ, when they are actually very normal sized, if not on the more petite side. They are characters that have been consumed by audiences internationally and intergenerationally, and the misjudgment of their body shape as âfatâ has stuck with me all throughout my growing up. We are constantly fed doctored images online and people who are promoting a miraculous weight loss programme or drug indicating that there is a need to constantly be looking at ways to better your appearance.Â
A few years ago, at a time in my life when I was convinced that the only way Iâd feel better about myself is if I was skinnier, I began to go to the gym. I did random workouts that I found online that preached a quick and painless weight loss journey. Of course this was a total fad, and I realised that I never needed to lose weight in the first place. Having come to this revelation, I was aware of how much moving my body helped with my mood and so I decided to give weightlifting a proper go, learning the right form and starting to experiment with different exercises with the intention of learning something new and challenging myself. It became a healthy habit, but when I mentioned it to my peers, I often was asked whether I was worried Iâd become too âmanlyâ. To that my answer was, and still is, that I go to the gym not to look a certain way but to feel it! Occasionally I did feel quite isolated, not really knowing any other women that took weightlifting that seriously, until, one day, I stumbled upon a platform The Gym Girls Locker Room, originally a Facebook group created by gym influencer Sydney under the handle @sydgrows. This platform inspires women to take up space in public gyms, a place most often dominated by men, and not be perturbed by the idea that women canât and shouldnât lift heavy weights due to their bodies becoming âtooâ masculine. This platform made me feel included and inspired me: they celebrate all different types of womenâs bodies, breaking the mould to inspire others that you donât have to look a certain way to go to the gym. They presented the gym as a place of community, fierce support, and full of people who are all there to move their bodies and feel good because of it.
Iâd like to address the concept I have mentioned about what is deemed as a woman being too âmanlyâ. It seems clear to me that this idea that a woman canât and shouldn’t show signs of muscularity stems from a patriarchal fear that women could be equally as strong or stronger, both physically and mentally, than men. It is then, quite simply, an idea that must be ignored when an individual, in this case, a woman, is considering starting an activity, such as weightlifting, especially since it is not just an activity for physical health, but also a mentally stimulating and challenging option. Another reason why muscularity in women is often seen as a negative thing is because of the sexualisation of the female body as something that should almost aspire to be childlike, hairless, blemishless and petite. The muscular woman is an unattractive idea to some men, as the threat of her being stronger than him is emasculating.
If ever I get weighed down by what I think my body should look like as a woman I like to remind myself of the historical representations of the female body, particularly in ancient Greece, according to their mythology. In paintings, sculptures and pottery of Greek goddesses, they are almost always women with a muscular form, strong thighs and arms, a soft but firm belly, wide, curvy hips and a ferocity in their countenance that is wonderful. If going to the gym and lifting weights makes me look like, and more importantly feel like, one of the Goddesses, then why would I not want to be a gym girl?