In today’s culture, we create a negative tone about “the friend zone.” In actuality, the friend zone is nothing but reality. As a person, you have to understand that not everyone is going to feel the same way you do. This is true in all parts of life and society. From family to traditions, culture, politics, and meaning of life. We all extract different meanings and feelings towards things. Because someone might not feel the same way back, it does not mean there is no room for a different kind of relationship.
Even the word itself, “friend zone,” assumes that there was something there, to begin with. This word can be thrown around and actually harm the relationship you were developing in the first place. To them, they may not have ever known you liked them a certain way. This word assumes that someone was playing you, there was something more, or that being friends is not good enough. You as an individual are not bound or entitled to people and what they may consider you in a developing relationship.
This does not mean you should trash what you have already created with someone. Sometimes we are on different terms and in different places with people. We cannot read people’s minds, and so sometimes we are oblivious to their feelings- it’s not because we are awful. If there is never clear communication, different feelings and assumptions can develop. If you’re ever wondering where you stand with someone, just ask. I know it is easier said than done. However, if you communicate where you stand, how you feel, and what you want from someone the message can be more clear. This way, no one has to label the other as being friend-zoned. There is less confusion on titles and meaning.
Value the “friend zone,” or in better terms value friends. Ultimately that is what the friend zone is. A friend is one of the most important relationships you can have. What happens when you can’t go to your family or a partner? You need friends to guide, help and support you through your journey. Building non-toxic relationships in all areas of life are essential to us as humans. We are social animals, our interactions and relationships we develop with people can determine our well-being.
Remember to communicate, understand, and value one another. The friend zone is not rejection, the friend zone is made up and simply a reiteration that we need to value our friends and relationships.