Ghosting someone happens; you aren’t feeling like talking anymore and never made things official, so you eventually stop talking. But if he tried to keep in touch and you ignored him, you better hope you don’t see him again, otherwise, things could get awkward. Unfortunately, I wasn’t very lucky and saw the guy twice in two weeks. Here’s what happened:
He and I had been talking for a few weeks on and off and decided to meet up. A few days before we were supposed to meet up, I slowly stopped talking to him, and by the time we were supposed to hang out, we had stopped talking completely. I texted him a few days later apologizing (I hadn’t actually meant to ghost him, I just got busy) but he was pissed and didn’t want to hear from me again.
First Encounter:
I went out to dinner at the Mystic Grill with my best friend and turns out, he was still a waiter there (he worked there when we talked). This was a few months after we had stopped talking, but it still felt oh so awkward! I basically tried to ignore it, but suddenly, some drunk guy sits next to us and starts asking for our names. He then gets up, walks out, and walks back in from the back door acting completely sober. Turns out he worked there! My guess? The guy I ghosted asked him to get our names to see if it was me. Mind you, he and I had never met irl, so he probably needed confirmation that it was me. Throughout the rest of the night, I expected him to come up to me or to text me, but he didn’t. I saw him looking at me a few times, but nothing else. Crisis avoided.
Second Encounter:
Of course this happened at another restaurant. My best friend and I walked into Applebee’s and low and behold, he’s there. Thankfully, he wasn’t working there, just a guest sitting at a table. But unfortunately, I happened to get seated to a table very close to he and his friend. I faced the other way the whole time, but I could hear them talking about “a girl” and that he felt like it didn’t work out “because there was another guy involved”. Was he talking about me? Another girl? Didn’t ask, don’t wanna know. But we caught him (and his friends) looking at me a few times, so I thought maybe I should text him to apologize once he left. My friends said no, so I didn’t. Should I have?
Thoughts on my fuck-up:
It was a mistake, I feel bad, and on top of it, he got hot. And I mean HOT, phat, a beautiful man. Both times I’ve seen him were super awkward, and now I definitely learned my lesson: don’t ghost a guy in a small town! Worst of all, don’t ghost a guy on a tiny campus like Oxford, I can’t image how badly that would end up.