Guynecologist pt. 2

Today I bring you the Guynecologist Pt. 2 – in which I am not creative enough to assign a thematic arc to the questions submitted, and therefore resign myself and my readers to a good old-fashioned Q&A. 

Q: “what’s the deal with guys only snap chatting?” 

A: Well, this obviously depends on the context around it, but I think we can all agree that different communication channels presume different levels of intimacy, and therefore operate under escalating levels of emotional risk. A phone call or FaceTime, for example, isn’t something most of us would use to contact just anyone; they’re involved, personal, and immediate means of communication, and therefore require a significant investment on our part. Similarly, not responding to a snapchat is fairly commonplace, but not replying to a text carries thornier implications. So, the gentleman in question may be limiting himself to snapchat because it’s a lower stakes arena than text or call or what have you. It’s more casual, less pressurized, and he may, for whatever reason, not think the time is optimal to progress to a more efficient communication method. 

Q: What’s your take on sending gifs/bitmojis instead of texts?

A: Bitmojis, no. GIFs, yes, 100%.

Q: How do I politely turn a guy down?

A: Honestly, I would worry less about the “politely” and more on being definitively understood. We’ve all seen screenshots of conversations where some guy sends text after creepy text, seemingly oblivious to the polite disinterest they’re met with, and I would venture that it’s best to avoid that if at all possible. Worry about yourself, and your right to be free of harassment from weird dudes before you worry about being too polite to some yank who won’t stop texting “wyd” to you at 2am.

Q: I like a guy in my friend group what do I do?

A: Well look at that, dear readers, a theme emerges. This is obviously a delicate situation to be in, but also highly specific and individual. As such, the only real advice I can offer is this: give it a nice long think. Evaluate the potential risks and benefits, and if you decide to pursue this person, be clear and direct about your intentions. That’s this week’s theme – inefficient communication leads to misunderstandings and anxiety. Figure out what you want, then make sure your wants are known. 

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