Anyone who knows me knows that my parents have been divorced for many years – that’s just been the norm. Now one of the perks of a divorced fam, besides the divorce present you get at the start, is the double holidays. For me, this means multiple Christmases, including my stepdad’s family, dad’s side, mom’s side, secret Santa, as well as the Christmases that come with being in a relationship. This brings the yearly average to about 5-7 (yes, I’m aware how crazy that is). But I know I mustn’t be alone in this crazily wonderful, hectic time of the year. So, with this being said, here are my top 10 tips for surviving Christmases as part of a divorced family.
1.Pick 2 And Only 2 To Get Drunk At
When it comes to having a crazy overload of Christmases, it may drive you to drink a whole bottle (or many bottles) of wine. With this being said, pick 2 Christmas occasions to let yourself get a little loose; you don’t want to be the drunk family member at every occasion, so choose wisely and remember what you have and whose house you have it at the next day.
2. Pick A Staple Outfit Or Accessory
Pick one thing that will make you look classy without trying, whether it be a nice watch, necklace, or sparkly tights. We all know that family goes picture crazy at Christmas gatherings, so keep it simple and reliable but fashionable at the same time.
3. Go Out and Buy One Bottle of Wine Per Christmas (Buy all at once)
Who doesn’t love wine?! Okay, even if for some odd reason they don’t like wine, the gesture was nice. Go to the liquor store and pick out one bottle per Christmas. If you know their preference, stick to that, otherwise just grab one you think looks pretty. Fill a box and head home; now you’re set for every Christmas and won’t be the guest that shows up empty handed.
4. Bring A Portable Phone Charger
Family gatherings, regardless of where they are, always end up going later than anyone expects. Bring a portable phone charger so you have peace of mind and a distraction for when your dad starts bringing out the horrible holiday jokes.
5. LISTS LISTS LISTS
Going to this many Christmases means having to bring gifts, wine, and possibly even food. Make some clear lists with what you are bringing and what you need for that day to make sure you are prepared every time.
6. Extend the Invite, But Don’t Expect Your Date To Come To Every One
Dating someone who comes from a divorced family can be different, so, when asking your date to come, remember that it is probably super overwhelming for them. Invite them to all, but remember that 5 Christmases on top of their own isn’t something they’re used to yet!
7. ALWAYS Bring Leftovers Home – But A Different Leftover Each Time
Who doesn’t love a good leftover? After many years of practise, you will know what Christmas has what food. Take the best thing from each so you don’t have 5 plates of Christmas dinner, but 5 individual items to make one kick-ass leftover plate.
8. Have A Stash of Christmas Cards on Hand Just in Case
You never know who might end up attending your Christmas, so have a stack of generic Christmas cards at home just in case your cousin brings his new girlfriend, or any other random guest who wonders in.
9. Take A Picture in Front of Every Christmas Tree
Christmas is a battle of who does it better when it comes to a divorced family. Even though you know that one tree is by far the best, don’t be biased. Take a picture in front of every one so they believe that it’s special to you (even though we know it’s just for your holiday Insta pic).
10. Stay Positive!
It can be stressful and overwhelming at times to have so much going on at the same time of year. Take a deep breath and just try to enjoy the amazing company you get to have.
Cheers, collegiates, and good luck this holiday season!