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Dating Advice from Real Live College Guy: Ethan DeAbreu

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Molloy chapter.

You Ask, Ethan DeAbreu Answers!

Anon: What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?

Ethan: Spontaneity… Personally I like surprises, but my girlfriend hates them. I really don’t do a lot spontaneous things as a result. Our level of spontaneity always involves the beach, or Port Jeff. I give her a quick call, and see what she wants to do. If I feel inspired by the nice weather, I’ll ask if she she wants to go to this spot we both like. We will go for walk, it’s all little things, but I like it that way.

Anon: Are nicknames annoying?

Ethan: I do find nicknames to be annoying. If it is something that is based off a joke, that’s funny, but if its one of the cutesy names that invokes a gag reflex from innocent bystanders, then not so much. I don’t want to be called by some explosively cutesy pet name. If you are calling me “babe”or something on that level, that is okay. The worst is when you get called by a really embarassing pet name in front of your friends, or just in public.

Anon: What is your biggest pet in a relationship?

Ethan: My biggest pet peeve in a relationship is unreasonable behavior. I really don’t like it when something simple turns into an argument. Luckily this hasn’t happened, but I have seen it; when a girl tells you that she thinks “it is funny that you have so much time for your friends but not me.” That sort of passive aggresive behavior over something like that just vexes me. I believe in trying to approach a balance within all circles of life: work, school, leadership positions, relationships, and the gym. Those are things that are important to me, and I don’t like when they get undermined. I have my priorities in line, and I dont need someone telling me otherwise. I am organized enough to make time for my girlfriend and my friends.

Another pet peeve of my mine, is that there is this common thought out there that “men are a work in progress.” That we need a woman, or guy to come into our lives and fix us. I see posts about this all the time. If you got into a relationship with someone just to “fix them” you should really evaluate your reasons. Undoubtedly, in a relationship there is room for personal growth on both sides of the equation, but I really hate the sort of thinking that a man needs to be fixed. I am complete with, or without a girlfriend in my life. I do not need anyone to complete me, I am not half of a whole.

 

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