1. I spent yet another Valentine’s Day alone with the gift package my parents sent me…so my new goal is to have a bae before May. Where do I start?
First of all, let’s just point out that you have awesome parents who thought to send you a package! Although it isn’t the same as having a bæ, knowing that people are out there who are thinking of you and love you is a really nice feeling that not everyone gets to have.
There’s nothing wrong with looking to settle; after all, not all of us are looking for a sloppy DFMO every weekend (but if you are, you should definitely go to Cannons this Friday and check out the next Sig Chi party). However, don’t give yourself a deadline. That puts a lot of pressure on yourself and, if it doesn’t happen by May, you’ll probably be really upset with yourself when there is absolutely no need to be. Often enough, these things happen when you least expect them to, so just go in with an open mind and no expectations. In the mean time, enjoy your friends, family, and independence.
However, that’s not to say that putting yourself in a good spot to find someone isn’t helpful. Try joining clubs that you’re interested in and meet new people. Go to different student dinners and events held on campus because everyone else who goes is also likely trying to meet new people. Ask your friends if they know anyone with the same #goals in mind; sometimes the best set-ups are through mutual friends. And lastly, don’t be afraid to go to different singles events in the city! They are always happening, and the great thing about them is that everyone there is trying to find a bæ too.
2. My best friend just a met a guy through Tinder, but I’m really not about that app. JSwipe and Hinge come highly recommended, but I’m apprehensive. Thoughts?
First of all, kudos to you for not being peer-pressured into joining Tinder. Although this new “find and grind” method seems to be the new in-thing to do, I promise there are more people than not who’d rather spend the night in with ya boys Ben and Jerry than meeting up with some rando at a seedy bar, desperately making their way through an awkward conversation so they can end the night dry humping.
However, that’s not to say ALL dating apps are bad. Some of them are made for people who actually want to meet new people. So, try them out! Worst-case scenario, you don’t meet anyone you really like and are in the same place you started. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose!
3. This semester, I’ve done way better at being on top of work. Lots of hours in Butler. But I’m starting to feel burned out and its only the beginning of midterms. Any advice for keeping the momentum alive when you’re feeling burnt out?
First, give yourself a pat on the back for staying on top of everything so far. I personally find myself writing you advice so that I DON’T have to do any of my work, so I already am applauding you.
It is so easy to find yourself getting burnt-out during this time of the semester, especially when you start to think about how much you have left to go. But don’t give up now- you got this!
To keep yourself refreshed and ready to go, make sure you’re getting at least seven hours of sleep every night. A groggy worker is a crappy worker, so sleeping four hours every night and downing coffee like a forty-year-old man does with his Viagra is not going to work for you.
Sometimes, the best thing is to call it a night, get some sleep, and pick up the next day. Also, give yourself one day a week where you don’t do any work. Maybe it’s Friday because you’re really hungover, maybe it’s Monday because you just HAVE to watch The Bachelor and then gab about it for the five hours before and after. Regardless of the reasoning, pick a day and stick to it. Having a mental health day once a week to hang with friends, go to SoulCycle, or just Netflix and chill is the best way to de-stress and get back into the grind.