We all know the pain of going through a breakup and being left with nothing but heart ache, but there are so many things you can do to heal. These eight steps might not mend your broken heart completely, but I guarantee they will help.
1. Work out
In the words of Khloe Kardashian, “the best form of revenge is a good body.” After a toxic relationship or a complicated breakup, working out will make you look good on the outside, but most importantly, it will make you feel good on the inside. Exercising is one of the best ways to help with anxiety and depression because it releases endorphins, a chemical in the brain that triggers you to feel happy. So, physical activity will most definitely make you feel better about yourself and the situation you’re in.
2. Hang out with your friends
During your relationship, I’m sure you chose your s.o. over your friends at some point. Everyone is guilty of doing this. Now that you two aren’t together anymore, this is a great time to regain that awesome relationship you once had with your friends. They are the best ones to go to after a break up, and will probably know exactly what to do to help you through this difficult time.
3. Don’t look for a rebound
Contrary to popular belief, the best way to get over someone is NOT to get under someone else. Rebounds only make you feel more lonely, and you’ll ultimately realize you’re not ready to move on. At this time in your life, you shouldn’t be looking for a relationship; you should be having fun and doing things that make YOU happy. Being alone doesn’t always mean you’re lonely. This is a great time to focus on yourself.
4. Pamper yourself
Plan a day for mani/pedis, a facial, or maybe even a massage. You can do this alone, with your mom or your besties, but regardless this will make you feel refreshed and beautiful. Going through a breakup is emotionally draining, so take some time for yourself and get pampered. Getting a fresh makeover or a drastic haircut will help you feel like a new person, which is exactly what you need during this time.
5. Make a no-contact rule
When it’s “Wine Wednesday” with the girls and you’ve had the dreadful third glass, your mind starts to think its a brilliant idea to text your ex. WRONG. This will only create more heartbreak and prevent you from moving on. Rememeber, you broke up for a reason, and drunk texting him at 12:30 a.m. on a Wednesday saying you miss him is not going to solve anything or mend that heart ache.
6. Remove them from your social media
It’s going to be really hard because you’re always wanting to know what they’re up to, but believe me, the out of sight, out of mind tactic truly works. Not seeing his tweets, his Instagram, or photos he got tagged in on Facebook is really going to help you move on. Do you really want to see a picture of him and the girl he took for formal? Nope, because it’s going to hurt like hell, so get rid of all social media contact.
7. Find yourself
When you’re young and in a toxic relationship with someone, you tend to lose yourself. You don’t realize it’s happening because you’re blinded by your love for the other person. Now that you’re free from that harmful relationship, focus on you. Find a hobby like yoga, or buy a book you’ve been dying to read Take yourself on a date to dinner and a movie. Figure out whatever is going to make you happy and do it.
8. Let go
Finally, letting go is the hardest yet most necessary measure a person can take when going through a breakup. If you have broken up more than once, it simply just isn’t meant to be. You’re probably going to resist moving on from that person, but the aftermath is going to be so rewarding for you. You’ll find that everyday it gets easier to get up and go on with your daily routine, and soon enough you’ll wake up without even thinking about that person anymore.