Dear Guydance,
Why don’t guys want girlfriends in college?
– Anon
Dear Anon,
I’ve been waiting for this question to hit us because it’s a common question for girls, especially in the “college scene” and I feel that it’s misunderstood. So, let me dive into this and help you out.
First of all, it’s important to understand that not all men think this way. In my opinion, this is a small minority of the college crowd. There’s always going to be the group of guys who say, “I’m never getting tied down in college because there’s so many girls… blah blah blah.” Fill in the blank however you want. It’s pretty easy to pick these guys out of a crowd as well. There’s also a small portion who want to concentrate on their education and obviously that has to be respected.
I find that the large portion of guys in college have the viewpoint of, “I’m not searching for the girl of my dreams, but if something great comes along, I’ll definitely explore it.” This can often be misunderstood as a guy not wanting a girlfriend in college, but in reality he’s just waiting for the right person to cross his path.
Here’s my advice for you: if you find a guy who really impresses you, lights a spark in your eye, don’t be afraid to converse with him. If a guy comes up to you asking questions while intently listening, give him the time of day. Any guy who shows some interest in you has probably thought about the possibility of you, he just doesn’t want to admit it. This doesn’t necessarily mean he will for sure date you and fall head over heels for you, but it will start the process of learning about each other.
They always say that the best relationships come out of nowhere. So live your life, have fun, and if someone crosses your path that lights a fire in you, make the best of it. Guys might not be searching for you but if you appear to them and they’re interested, they’ll make a move.
Sincerely,
Adam Bartusek