We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you’re stressed about a fling gone wrong, a recently wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Dale is here to help you navigate the college dating scene.
I recently found out my boyfriend is active on his Tinder account after we had mutually deleted accounts. He’s a pretty busy guy, but lately, I feel like he’s using “work” to avoid hanging out and talking. Last night, he said he loved me and that he would call me to say goodnight. I never got a call, but his Tinder profile clearly states when he was active… He chose flipping through Tinder over calling me. I’m afraid he’s cheating, but I don’t know what to think or do. -Hopeless in Oregon
Oregon,
I’ll keep this short and sweet: If the guy is lying to you about Tinder, he’s probably lying to you about other things. While I’d love to tell you to confront him about it and get the truth, I’m almost certain that he’s just going to lie to you then, too, and you’ll be right back where you started. Of course, you could give him an ultimatum, but I feel like he would probably take you up on that ultimatum (and by that, I mean he would break up with you).
It’s kind of like A + B = C. Here, “A” represents the fact that he still has and is presumably still using Tinder. “B” represents him using “work” as a reason to avoid hanging out or talking. “C,” the result, is him probably hooking up with girls from Tinder while he’s at “work.”
Just a shot in the dark here, but this guy seems like a liar. Maybe he doesn’t like being in a monogamous relationship, but that doesn’t mean you need to suffer for that.
You two were supposed to delete your accounts. He’s avoiding you for some reason, and he’s still active on Tinder (which is virtual hook-up capital).
You want my opinion? Drop him. You’ll find a better replacement in no time, if you even want one. You’ve already given him a chance, and if you feel like you’re being cheated on or out of a fair relationship, then you don’t need to stick around. Show him who’s boss, Oregon. Might I suggest you do so by reactivating your own Tinder account? Just be sure to swipe left.