I’m sure we’ve all been in this position before: you’re really hitting it off with a guy and you think he’s perfect. But, there’s a catch: he has a girlfriend. Now, you’re in a dilemma; do you leave it alone or do you go after him anyway? The answer should be easy, and if it isn’t, something is seriously wrong here. Under no circumstances should you go after him. Wait until he is single or find someone else. Anyone who is in a relationship is off limits, no matter what the situation is.
Even if the guy is flirting with you, or claiming “I’m going to break up with her soon, I swear,” do NOT do anything unless the end of their relationship is definite and final. You don’t want to be in a long cycle of being the “other girl” and have your heart ultimately broken. Once a cheater always a cheater, and you honestly need to love yourself first, honey.
Also, think about the other girl, the one he’s currently dating. Put yourself in her shoes and think of how you would feel. You would be devastated to find out the one person you really trusted and really loved was also with someone else. It’s deceitful, hurtful, and it’s something people are now turning into a joke.
There was a shirt I saw at Kmart once that said “Call me when you leave her” and all it does is promote the behavior of being the side chick and it’s not okay. We see jokes on social media about side “baes” and people think it’s all fun and games until it happens to them. We need to stop promoting this destructive behavior before we have kids growing up thinking things like this are okay.
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