The Truth about Being Called Crazy

As we all know, having feelings for someone, whether they’re strong feelings or not, can bring out a side in us that’s… spirited? Passionate? Fun?

 

Let’s all just take a deep breath and say it together: crazy. It seems as if every girl fears this label so much that over time it has become one of the worst insults a guy can throw at us. So what is it exactly that has us cringing, hurled over, with a knot in our stomachs at the very thought of being called crazy?

 

 

There are things we can incessantly mull over for hours in our heads, and with our friends. “Should I have not sent that second text? Do you think he likes her better than me? I feel like I’m too clingy. Do you think I overreacted? I hope I didn’t sound crazy.”

 

 

The truth is that in most cases, you probably weren’t crazy. And even if you momentarily acted “crazy”, that does not make you a crazy person. It’s human to experience irrationality from time to time. In fact, I worry a little bit about couples that never seem to experience jealousy on either end. When you like someone it’s bound to make you feel attached to them, and if that attachment ever seems threatened, how can we not react? It’s so easy to be that person who rolls their eyes at their friends’ “craziness” and to tell them they’re overreacting, but so different when you’re in the position of liking someone.

 

Personally, I think that the longer you’ve been dating someone, the more that a “crazy” side gets brought out. Being in a romantic relationship with someone is the closest you can get to a person in all aspects; and hopefully, that closeness comes with a sense of comfort. I think it’s important to be comfortable enough with someone to be able to say exactly how you feel, even if it’s irrational, without fear of them bolting.

 

 

I know that some of the things I’ve felt and said to my partner could fall under the category of “crazy”, but he isn’t perfect either. Yet we’re able to look past the manner in which something was said because we understand that translating how you feel to someone isn’t always the easiest thing. And the more you make mistakes in communicating, the more you learn how to do it effectively. 

 

It’s definitely important to think before you speak. And maybe double texting someone you just started seeing isn’t the greatest idea. However, I think it’s important to be honest as long as it’s done maturely. Wouldn’t you rather tell the guy you’re seeing in a mature way that you’re jealous of someone in his life and have it be resolved? What if his answer isn’t that you’re crazy, but that you’re the one he wants and there’s nothing to be jealous of? Suppressing something you want to say because you’re scared of how it will make you sound is silly, because it’s how you feel. And if the person you’re with can’t accept your feelings, then maybe that person isn’t for you. At the end of the day, if you’re already feeling an emotion, saying it out loud doesn’t make you any crazier than keeping it in.