There stands a manmade rule that goes a little like this: “Women should be seen and not heard.” If you’re anything like me, you never hesitate to break the rules and, more importantly, speak up whenever you feel it’s necessary. Being outspoken may rub people the wrong way, but that shouldn’t concern you because in the words of the oh-so lovey Dita Von Teese:
If someone hates peaches, there is absolutely nothing you can do about that. There is, however, a difference between being opinionated and just being outright obnoxious.
There are multiple ways to voice your opinion effectively without being rude. People don’t take well to rudeness, and then you’ll be the only one listening to your fantastically amazing opinion.
The first thing to know about opinions is that everyone has them. If you want people to respect your opinion, you have to do the same to others.
Another key component to being strong-willed and outspoken is the ability to accept criticism. Even if you don’t comment on other’s opinions, they’ll comment on yours. The things people will have to say may be negative, but you shouldn’t stop speaking your mind because of it. I think opinions are fantastic, and you should be able to discuss yours with someone through intelligent conversation or thoughtful debate and agree to disagree when necessary.
The obnoxious part of opinions comes to light when people try to force their opinions and views on other people. The freedom you feel about your opinion applies to others:
· Freedom of speech is simply the right to say what you feel without being thrown in jail.
· It doesn’t mean that someone can’t disagree or reprimand you for being an a**hole.
· It doesn’t mean you get to be oppressive in your words and actions or cry because you’ve been called out.
With that in mind, think before you speak, and make sure you know the repercussions of your words. Though this seems of little importance, mastering this skill will be effective in other areas in life. The only way we’ll be successful in this life is if we learn to get along. Simply minding the feelings of others is a giant leap in the right direction.
Finally, I leave you with this: if you have to ask yourself if something is obnoxious, chances are, it probably is.