Now that we are in the dead of winter, and everyone’s favorite holiday, Valentine’s Day, is right around the corner, there is one big thing on just about every girl’s mind…“Why am I single??” I think many girls (myself included) allow themselves to get too caught up in relationships in general and even more in the winter months. Something about the winter or “cuffing season” as it has even been nicknamed just makes having a significant other seem so much more appealing. But have no fear ladies, being single during the winter (and during any other season) does have its advantages.
1. No one to answer to
Take this time of being single as a time to do what you want, when you want, with you who want, with no questions asked. This is your time, and you should not have to answer to anyone why you wore what you wore out or why you may have had one too many cranberry and vodkas at Mad River the night before.
2. Meeting new people
Being single gives you a huge opportunity to meet new people; people you may not have met had you been in a relationship. Meeting new people is a large part of college, and if being in a relationship is potentially going to hold you back from doing that, you have to ask yourself if it is really worth it.
3. No feeling guilty
Go ahead, flirt with that guy at the bar on Friday night, and then go right ahead and flirt with a different one on Saturday. Being single entitles you to explore the market of guys that are out there, without feeling an ounce of guilt. This gives you prime opportunity to scope out qualities in guys you would like to potentially have a relationship with in the future, and qualities you definitely want to avoid.
4. Strengthen friendships
Being single gives you the chance to strengthen relationships with people who will matter much more in the end than some boyfriend you had for a few months, your girlfriends. We’ve all heard the saying, “you don’t go to college to meet your husband, you go to meet your bridesmaids,” and for a lot of people that is the truth. At the end of the day your girlfriends are who will always be there for you, and movie nights with them and a bottle of wine can be just as good if not better than a movie night with a significant other.
5. Focus on the relationship you have with yourself
How many times have your heard that college is all about finding yourself? Well that’s because it is the truth. College is a once in a lifetime experience, and you should want to make the absolute most of it for no one else other than yourself. Start doing things to make yourself happy, because you need to be able to make yourself happy before anyone else will be able to. As the wonderful Carrie Bradshaw once said, “But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well that’s fabulous”.
Although it sometimes may seem that being single is the worst thing in the world, try to see its positives. Focus on your own happiness, find something your passionate about, go out with your friends, and make the most of the four years you will spend here on Hawk Hill.
HCXO,
Paige