Being single in college has its positives; but it definitely has its negatives, too. I’ve always been single, and it’s increasingly difficult to find a boyfriend at QU, where the population is 70% female.
It’s also difficult when most guys say they aren’t “looking for a relationship right now”. I, however, find this statement to be false. The guy who I had been seeing-but-not necessarily-dating for the past six months recently dumped me and told me over text that he was seeing someone else now. He’d told me all along while we were seeing each other that he didn’t want a relationship because he’s a senior in college (which is understandable I guess) but now he’s in a relationship with another girl. While this initially upset me to the point where I needed my roommates to console me, I learned a few things from this.
1. Have respect for yourself: The guy I’d been seeing knew that what he said (and how he said it) would upset me. Even if he’d say he was kidding after saying it, most likely, deep down he meant it.
2. Eliminate him from social media: Delete him off Facebook. Unfollow him on Twitter and Instagram. Looking through his pictures – especially if he’s got a new girl – is going to feel like a punch in the throat.
3. Keep yourself busy: Go to the gym. Get involved on campus. Focus on yourself. Be the best person you can be, and soon enough you’ll forget about that jerk who dumped you over text.
Above all ladies, although being single can be a downer, always remember to love yourself. Never depend on a boy for your happiness. When the “right guy” decides to come out from the rock he’s been hiding under, never let him go unappreciated – especially when you remember the jerks of relationship’s past.