Dear Male Delivery
I really like this guy but he doesn’t reciprocate the interest. Should I just get over it and move on? Or is there a way to change his mind?
So, he’s not reciprocating? To be honest, he might not even know if there is anything to reciprocate at all. In the past, I don’t give my gender much credit when it comes to “reading signs” but seriously, we are very oblivious and even cautious when it comes to reading into girl’s actions. We are not observant in that we need a very blunt indicator that you are interested (Tell us, really). We are cautious in that we don’t want to assume that you are interested. I and many other men have, in the past, run into situations where after an interaction with a cutie, we were totally convinced they were interested. However, we find out that they were being friendly and the situation turns very uncomfortable.
With that being said, it is ok to assume that he may not be seeing the signs. From here, make it more obvious or even just tell him. We need to move into the idea expressing our feelings to someone because if you come to situation with confidence, people will appreciate the honesty. We also need to understand that things will be awkward or uncomfortable sometimes and that is OK.
As far as whether you should move on or not, at least try to tell him your feelings and see if he is interested. That will answer your question very quickly!
Changing his mind, you say? Well, good luck. If we are attracted, we will act somehow. If we are not attracted, we won’t act. Yes, attraction can grow, but when it is non-existetent, just move on.
I couldn’t tell you how to change my mind about you. Most guys I know make that decision subconsciously and stay the same. Really, you can’t make someone attracted to you. It is kind of a black or white thing. Just let it be.
I think it is important to also say that if someone is not interested it is OK. There is someone interested in you somewhere especially at the University of Georgia. We all just have to realize this and stop putting all of our chips into one little guy or girl. It’s seriously unhealthy and setting very high expectations for very low chances. Be realistic about such things. Don’t think that if one person isn’t interested that no one is. Give yourself more credit!
Sincerely,
Your RLCG
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