For our generation, talking on the phone has slowly but surely become a distant treasure of the past. People want fast responses and often prefer the simplicity of a text message. Texting has become the main form of communication for various purposes…even the “booty call” (or should I say the “booty text”?) The booty text is a complicated area for us girls since getting that “Hey what are you doing?” message at 2 am is not exactly how we pictured the beckoning of our 21st century Prince Charming. Yet it is a reality that our generation has fully adapted to, especially in college. But how do we respond to this booty text? What hours constitute a late night hook up? Should we respond and ignore it? Accept it? Here are some tips on how to handle the booty text in a couple different situations.
Typically the booty text occurs anytime between the hours of midnight and 3 a.m. If he texts you at 11:00/11:30 it is debatable. You want the guy to text you early enough to actually hang out first! If it is too late to spend some time with your man…even if it’s just chilling at a pregame…chances are you’ve been hit with a booty text. The first thing you must establish when dealing with these texts is whether or not you want it (no pun intended). Normally, this depends on the type of relationship you have with this guy…
The Steady Hook Up: If you have been hooking up with a guy for an extended period of time, chances are you might be okay with a 2 a.m. text. That is, of course, if you do not want something more. If you actually like this guy and are dying for the relationship to progress, try not to answer (as hard as this may be). If you don’t make yourself super available, he’ll be wondering why you are shutting him out. Slowly establish that you are not the type of girl he can just text to come over. Make him work for it, you deserve it!
The Rando: You just met this super cute kid at the bar and were connecting on a great level….but STOP AND THINK. If you are looking for a one and done, by all means, go for it! If you want this to potentially develop into something more, let him walk you home, kiss him goodbye at the door, and leave him wanting more. Who knows! This could be a new relationship in the works.
The Friends with Benefits: Although Ashton Kutcher, Justin Timberlake, Mila Kunis and Natalie Portman showed us that this can never fully work out, maybe the F w/ B is exactly what you want right now. Out of all the situations, this is probably the most appropriate for a late night booty text. If it’s working for you, go have your fun…just know the potential risks of getting your heart broken if you do fall for this guy.
If you want to hang out with your man when the sun is actually out, it is so crucial to reject the 2 a.m. texts. I know, I know…way easier said than done! But it is a known fact that guys like a little mystery and that they are always craving the chase. Be very coy with your responses and play it off like you are just not into it anymore. For instance, a perfect response would be, “I’m just going to head to bed, but have a good night!” or “I’m actually just hanging around here tonight.” Not giving him too much information will get him thinking and, if he thinks he is about to lose you, the late night texts will very quickly switch to daytime ones. Once that happens, take the “booty” out, and, viola, you have yourself a genuine, old-fashioned, normal text message.  Get em, ladies!