Dear Male Delivery, do boys hate it when girls cuss? Not like a sailor but an occasional slur here or there?
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At the risk of exploring massive double standards, it seems that this taboo needs to to be fully hashed out for girls.
I know that the habit of cussing was not addressed in the question, but let me expound on that. This next point comes with an understanding that it sounds horribly backwards and it probably is, but it is pretty unattractive to me and many guys (a majority of men I have talked to) when a girl swears pretty regularly. Even more so, it seems to bother men more when it is women. Yeah, I know how it sounds. But, it shows a lack of class and intelligence in speech. Couldn’t you use another word?
But let me be clear. I am still bothered (and many guys too) when guys cuss like sailors, and it is very unfair for us to excuse men for it and not women.
So, don’t cuss in every sentence.
With that said, everyone occasionally drops an expletive in front of their friends and sometimes in front of the ones they like and/or trying to date. It is natural to express our emotions only in ways to garner as much attention to our current plight as possible. When you are mad and people don’t realize or there is something completely wrong in front of you, what better way to show that anger than to slip a word that will make heads turn. I do not purport doing this all the time. In fact, I would say to do this in only very extreme situations.
With dating, let me provide a situation. You are on the 5th date with a guy. By this time, I assume that you two are pretty comfortable with each other and do in fact enjoy each other’s presence. At the end of your dinner, he opens the door for you to get in the car to leave. You smack your head on the car on your “graceful” entrance into the passenger seat. In a moment of humility and vulnerability, you yell out a nice little word that your mother would wash your mouth out for. I guarantee you that the first thing a guy is going to do is laugh because it was cute and humorous.
Now, I say this to show you that cussing seems to be very situational for relationships. My final word is don’t cuss at all (and neither should the guy), but it is understandable that everyone is human and our speech isn’t exactly pure all the time.
Sincerely
Your RLCG,
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