Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the “boys will be boys” conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.
This guy I just started dating asked me to make plans for February 14, but the thing is, I’m pretty positive he forgot it was Valentine’s Day that day when we made the plans (he just said “next Thursday”). I said yes about plans and didn’t mention the fact that it was V-Day. What should I do? Should I remind him it’s V-Day in case he doesn’t actually want to do something with me that day? Or just have him realize it as it gets closer? Do you think he’ll cancel on me when he realizes it’s V-Day? Given it’s V-Day, I don’t know we what we could do that day that wouldn’t feel really couple-y even just going out to dinner or something since there will be couples everywhere, but we are really not at that point yet where we would be doing something like that on Valentine’s Day, so is it just too awkward for us to hang out that day? I’m 99% positive he forgot it was Valentine’s Day when we made the plans. -Yikes at Yale
Yikes,
Not sure what it is about guys not realizing it’s Valentine’s Day but you shouldn’t worry. Just because it appears as if V-Day is meant for serious couples doesn’t mean a couple that is extremely new can’t celebrate together. I mean what is the alternative? The two of you just stay home and be bored? Friends don’t typically go out with other friends on this holiday so is the alternative (stay at home and be bored) versus what could be somewhat an awkward date any better? I think making the best of the date would be the most fun. I mean hey, you’re out on a date! Not everyone can say that on V-Day!
Now, while it is unfortunate that this guy is seemingly clueless about such an important holiday in the collegiette world, you shouldn’t let it consume your thoughts. Plus, if you were to remind him about it he will only feel awkward for forgetting. And who knows? Maybe he would cancel if you reminded him and that would just be really awkward.
Holding your tongue in this situation and just going forward with the plans is the best course of action in my eyes. Either he realizes on his own and still wants to go out and you two have a good (albeit slightly awkward) date or he realizes on his own and politely cancels because he’s just not ready for a V-Day date. If he doesn’t realize and you two go ahead with your plans and he realizes on the date then the two of you can have a good chuckle about it. Now maybe he knows what that day is and just doesn’t want to make it a big deal but I highly doubt that’s the case.
Personally, I think people make V-Day out to be a bigger deal than it is and it can be as casual or serious as a couple wants to make it. Even if you don’t consider yourselves a true couple yet, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time that night.