It’s a known fact that guys and girls have social rules they follow. Some typical ones are:
- Girls travel to bathrooms in groups
- Guys have to be loyal to their bros (“code of silence”, it’s hardcore!)
- Girls ask friends what they should wear out on a date
- Guys, well at least gentlemen, open doors (like here at William and Mary!)
But because of some of these rules and expectations, it’s really hard to interact with guys a lot of times. A classic example is confusion by text message.
Let’s say you text a guy just to say hey. He texts you back with something like, “It’s whatever”. You can ask a million questions in your mind like “Is he mad at me?”, “Did I do something wrong”, “Does he not want to talk to me?” The fact of the matter is: YOU ARE MAKING THINGS WAY TOO COMPLICATED! The better option is just to ask “Have a bad day or something?” instead of playing the guessing game for the whole conversation. The worst thing is to have confusion via text, and although it can be awkward to be straightforward, it will save you a whole lot of questions and craziness in the long run.
Another “dramafied” (yes I made this up) situation is when you need to talk about something severe and you want to avoid the conflict. Texting while mad, sad, or all around bad is not a good idea. Just tell the guy or girl in person. As much as you would like to avoid the inevitable, it’s better to just address the situation early on. Learn from my mistake because being passive aggressive only makes the other person extremely confused. It’s better to talk it out with someone you’re having problems with than to avoid them and give them sassy glares because you may end up losing who you are in the drama.
Another thing girls, if you see a guy as a friend, and ONLY A FRIEND, tell him. It’s the worst when you let something that you don’t want drag on. Be honest with yourself and the guy because you both will appreciate it. Don’t lead him on because he will think you were lying to him the whole time. And then, a potentially awesome friendship could turn into hateration nation (another phrase by yours truly lol). So don’t be afraid, be real. Let him know so you don’t have to let him go.
I know this has been a little rant on my part, but I hope it helps. I hate to see complications get in the way of progress and so I speak to you my awesome readers, don’t let rules dictate what you do, let your mind and your intuition guide you. As they say a mind is a terrible thing to waste so don’t waste it!! “Uncomplicate” things by making good choices!