In this day and age, technology has made amazing strides since we were little kids. We have cell phones that double as cameras, computers that let you actually see the person that you are talking to, and who could forget the social networking sites that have even breached our vocabulary. “Don’t forget to tag me in that picture”, “FB chat me later” and “Can you believe what she wrote on his wall?” are phrases that regularly come up in conversation.
Even for those in the most committed relationships, Facebook has been a source of issues that only lead to further complicate the already confusing world of dating. Friending someone, being tagged in a picture with someone or writing on their wall are frequent fight-starters that come up because of Facebook.
Let’s face it, Facebook has completely revolutionized the world of dating. No more does one have to wonder whether that cute boy in your class is dating someone. Some people do not consider a relationship to be real unless it is “Facebook official”. You can even tell what type of a guy he is just by looking at how he represents himself on Facebook.
While some things about Facebook have been great: i.e. sharing pictures and catching up with old friends, Facebook for the single girl is well… “evil”. The minute you change your status from “in a relationship” to “single” the entire world knows about it and feels free to comment. It is also VERY easy to stalk your exes. (Just unfriend him. While this may seem drastic, keep in mind that even the most amicable break ups hurt. Do you really want him tracking every movement you make while you’re single? Do you want to see when he gets into a new relationship?)
Facebook can also often lead to very embarrassing situations.
About a month ago, I was stalking my roommate’s pictures. It was from her photo album that had a few of her boyfriend’s friends in it. When going through, I noticed a really cute guy. Interested I clicked on his page to find out more about him. Thwarted by his stupid security settings, I decided to friend him. “What’s the harm in that?” I figured.
Well, I was about to find out.
A couple days later, after I had all but forgotten about the “creep-tastic” facebook friending, I received a message on facebook.
Cute guy: Hey do I know you?
Oh my god. I was absolutely mortified. This has never happened to me before. I had been caught being a facebook creeper. The answer was “well, you actually don’t know me but I saw your picture and wanted to creep you”. Instead I answered that I was Emma’s roommate and we had met at a party (total lie). He then accepted said request. Now, when I actually do attend parties with him, I avoid him like the plague because of my embarrassment.
Lesson Learned:
Ladies, you will almost never start a relationship over facebook. It is not like you will friend a guy and he will say “oh my god, she is gorgeous, looks like her friends enjoy her and OH she likes the same bands as me. I have to be with her.” It might start an introduction, but it’s not going to start a relationship. It will almost always be a source of embarrassment.
Wishing you the faith in yourself, the hope for your future and maybe a little bit of love.