It can be easy to read into what your favourite sex position means. Some sex positions have a reputation for being less intimate than others, and it can be easy to extrapolate that information and think that your relationship may be lacking. Sex can be a great way to create intimacy with your partner, and no one sex position is better than the other. Each sex position does come with its benefits and downfalls, and it can be fun to think about what your favourite position may mean about you.Â
Missionary
Missionary has a reputation for being bland, vanilla and boring. The go-to position that people do when they don’t really know how to have sex. It is a position that gets cats off easily, but it’s the go-to for a reason. It can be one of the best positions to create intimacy, bonding and make you and your partner feel safe. There is a closeness that comes with this position which makes it great if you need reassurance or validation during sex. Not that those are bad things, everyone needs reassurance and validation. It is great to look into your partner’s eyes and see the effect you are having on them. It is great that you are face to face which forces communication. You can read each other more easily and showcase any discomfort easily. Missionary can be a great position if you need intimacy in sex. This position allows for a lot of kissing, touching and skin-to-skin contact. You can easily whisper in one another ear and pull each other close. It allows for a lot of control regarding depth, speed and force, and if you are on the receiving end, it is easy to adjust your hips for the best possible feeling. It is also one of the easiest positions to hit the G spot in, making it very pleasurable. This position is vulnerable and gives the partner on top a lot of power over the partner who is on the bottom. In non-heteronormative couples, whether you like to be giving or receiving, it can indicate whether you are a dom or a sub in the bedroom. For hetero normative couples, if you enjoy this position, you probably also enjoy the power play aspect that comes along with it. If this is your favourite position, it probably means that you like intimacy with sex and that aftercare and security are high priorities to you when having sex. It is one of the best positions and does not deserve the slack it gets with regard to being called boring. It is one of the best positions for stimulating the brain, and let’s be honest, the brain is the most important sex organ.
Doggy
This position has a reputation for being animalistic, raw and unaffectionate. There is nothing wrong with these things, though this position does offer a lot of opportunity for intimacy. It is easy to lean back onto your partner and have some control, as is it easy for your partner to go crazy. It is one of the best positions to allow for the giver to have maximal control regarding speed, depth and force. Many women say it is their favourite position because it feels the best, and many say it’s their favourite because, for them, it lets them have control. What this boils down to is that doggy allows people to get out of their heads. When you are not face to face with your partner, you don’t have to worry about visually seeing their perceived disappointment. You can let yourself get out of your head. If you like this position, you are probably extremely caring and you want your partner to feel good. It also means you have a strong relationship with your partner and are great at communication, as the position requires more communication to have your needs met than the others. That makes this position an extremely affectionate one when you think about the psychology behind it. Â
Cowgirl
This position has a reputation for being great for someone’s first time. It gives control over to the female in a hetero-normative relationship, allowing them to control the speed, penetration and depth. It is also a very intimate position making you feel safe and secure as you can look at your partner and get that validation. It is a great position for people who like to be in control and those who don’t. You can easily switch who has the power. Your partner can easily grab your hips and go wild. Likewise, you can easily control the speed if you want to. It allows for great access to your clit, making it an all-time favourite amongst women who need both vaginal and clitoral stimulation. If this position is your favourite, it probably means that you like having some control during sex. That control in sex makes you feel safe. It also means that you like sex to be intimate. And let’s be honest, it probably means you do yoga and or have great stamina because this position can sure make your legs feel it the next day.
All in all, what your favourite sex position means has nothing to do with how great your relationship is. It is also not an indication of how you feel about your partner. Rather it is an inward reflection on your personal view on your relationship with sex. It can tell you about how you like to communicate, what you need from a partner in order to both physically and mentally achieve an orgasm. Your favourite position may change from partner to partner, but preferring one over the other does not indicate a better relationship or worse. With that partner, your needs in sex may be different than with your previous partner. It can reveal what you need to feel safe and secure and to thoroughly enjoy yourself. It is more of a personal realization about yourself as opposed to a realization about the relations to how your partners feel. The brain is the most important sex organ, and if you don’t feel safe and secure, you are not going to have a good time.