Does your relationship track record look a little sad, marked with a long list of names and battle scars scrawled next to each one? Time to be honest with yourself. Throw out your bag of excuses and admit it – when it comes to men, you have bad taste, bad judgment. Or as author Dawn Maslar would say – a bad picker.
Ms. Maslar uses many easy-to-understand, relatable metaphors to describe otherwise complicated relationship situations in her newly-released book From Heartbreak to Heart’s Desire: Developing a Healthy GPS (Guy Picking System).
When, repeatedly, your tingly feeling for a guy has turned into gut-wrenching pain, it’s time for change. You don’t have to keep dating the same guy in a different package over and over again. Having an addiction to relationship drama and pain is not normal, but because of repeated exposure, behaving like a masochist feels familiar so you settle into yet another doomed relationship. And when you do meet a decent guy, you sabotage the relationship.
While women’s magazines urge you to change your hair, makeup and wardrobe, what you really need to change is you – and not just the outside.
Finding a healthy relationship starts with you finding your true self and letting go of past negative experiences. Maslar writes, “You will never be happy in a relationship until you are able to be happy without one.”
Do yourself a favor and stop settling for crumbs in your relationships or as Maslar calls them “love scraps.” You deserve better, but first you have to believe it.
That’s what Ms. Maslar aims to achieve in her book – a step-by-step guide of no-nonsense advice that will help you to navigate your way toward a healthy, fulfilling relationship. But it starts with you.
If your dating history consists of a series of failed relationships or ones you’ve sabotaged, I recommend this book to you.