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Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys

Recently, I realized that all the guys in my life (with the exception of my male family members) are gay. I love all of them dearly, but I’m single, and wouldn’t mind getting into a relationship. But it seems I only attract guy friends who are interested in guys. What should I do?
 
Hi Doll,
 

Well, it’s pretty safe to hang out with your gay husbands, isn’t it? I used to have lots of “best” friends who were guys, and these guys also had girlfriends. It was more comfortable for me to be close with them than to consider jumping off the cliff of my own vulnerability into a relationship of my own.  You’re asking me what you should do, but I think you know what to do. Stop hiding behind your best gays and start standing out on your own cliff.  Are there any guys you are interested in or attracted to?  Plan a party and invite some friends over (gay and straight), and ask them to each bring a single friend. Ask someone to study together or go to a yoga class and see how it goes.
 
The most powerful thing you can do in any situation is realign your thoughts and intentions, and I hear the sincerity in your desire. I think some minor tweaks will do wonders for you and your path will start to cross with potential suitors in unexpected ways. Just stay open, curious, passionate and confident. Let me know how it goes!
 
All my love,
Ali


Ali Berlin is a radio host, author, relationship coach and marriage officiant who guides people to release conditioned pain and fear and embrace satisfaction and love. Over the past ten years, she has become a sought after expert in desire and practical spirituality, and is beloved for her disarming personal transparency and relentless commitment to the truth. Ali has personally worked with hundreds of individuals and couples, and spoken to thousands of people on the practice of living an authentic, integrated and passionate One Life. Ali holds a Masters Degree and coaching certification from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and a Bachelors Degree from Penn State University. She has lectured at Stanford University, Penn State University, the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and has been a featured on Montel Williams radio, Woman’s Day Magazine radio, The New York Times Weddings section, InStyle Celebrity Weddings, DailyWorth.com, Mike Robbins’ radio, KTLA Pacesetters, StyleMePretty.com, BrooklynBride.com, Personal Life Media and more. In 2008, she co-founded The One Love Campaign, a grass roots initiative for marriage equality, which garnered local and national recognition. For more information, visit http://aliberlin.com/