So, it feels like freshman year again. Two best friends single, ready to tear up the Knoxville scene. It seems like just yesterday we were both in a relationship… Oh wait. We were. Now that we’ve gone through a box of tissues, a Law & Order SVU marathon, a bottle of wine, and cupcakes- we’re ready to get down to business. This article goes for both girls AND boys who are looking to end a rocky relationship, or get OVER one.
Dumpees: (Bailey) I’ve never experienced a long distance relationship before this year. It was something I didn’t expect to happen, but summer romance blossomed into love. I was in love so much so that it kept me from thinking realistically from a lot of things. Maybe it was the distance, or something else, but the stress of being in the relationship overcame me. Rather than dragging it on, I decided it would be best to break it off. Now I can’t say breaking up with someone over a phone call is the best way to go about it, but ultimately I couldn’t mentally handle it anymore. To me, being on the same track as your significant other has a major effect on whether your love can last or not. I hope to find that one day, hopefully in Knoxville.
Dumped: (Rachel) For me, it was an unexpected, heart-wrenching splash of cold water. I had no idea it was coming. I can officially say that the worst way to break up with someone is without even warning them. What made matters worse was that he did it over text. Now, I am definitely not going to sit here and type up a whole list of ugly things to say about him, because he was, and still is, a truly amazing guy. This made matters worse- causing me to wonder about what went wrong. My best friend broke up with his friend, which led him to break up with me twenty minutes later. Ouch. At first I was sad and literally cried for two hours straight. I’m talking big heaping, hiccupping sobs. Eventually it transitioned into anger and how I am now, numb. I still can’t believe it actually happened, but I am happy to say I will be okay. I know this. I know someday I’ll find a guy who truly wants to be with me, not matter the distance.
So needless to say, breakups suck. Breaking up through a phone call isn’t ideal, but sometimes it’s the best you can do. Text message, however, will never, in any way, be an acceptable method of dumping. But clearly, it happens. So how do you deal? The cupcakes, L&O and wine are a must. When the mourning period is over, the best medicine is fun! If you just dumped someone, remind yourself that you did it for a reason. The relationship wasn’t working, and you did what was right for you. If you got dumped (especially if it was over text) remind yourself that you’ll find someone new and even better! Then grab your friends and dance it off!