One of the worst things in the world has to be being caught in the middle of friend drama. You feel forced to take someone’s side, but then feel bad for the other person. Honestly, you just want it all to end and wish you could all be friends again.
Here’s what you do:
First things first, do not take sides. This will just make things worse. Choosing a side also creates even more drama because someone will get mad at you! Plus, it’s hard listening to the arguments and choosing who’s “right.”
Don’t talk about the other friends. If you’re listening to one of the sides, don’t trash talk the other friend. When you all make up, that’s going to come up. It’s even worse when you talk bad about both friends because then you look fake. Just try your hardest to stay neutral.
Communication is key. Convince the two arguing friends that they should voice how they feel to the other. They might both feel the same way and they won’t know because they’re not speaking to each other. This might not be the best way, but you might have to trick them into the same room. Let them scream at each other if necessary. Sometimes feelings are built up and they need to be let out.
Remind them of all of the memories they’ve made. They don’t want to let a good friendship go down the toilet. Arguments are bound to happen, but you can’t always have an angry mentality. Make a slideshow of cute pictures and videos. Remind them that there are good and bad times and they can’t let the bad overpower the good.
Mind your own business. There are going to be times when you can’t seem to do anything about it. You feel like you’ve tried everything, but it’s no use. You have to remember that sometimes arguments aren’t minor. Some arguments may be due to serious problems, and if that’s the case, you have to let your friends make their own decisions. If they choose to end the friendship and go separate ways, you’ll have to accept that. It’s hard to accept change, but it’s necessary in life.
Remember collegiettes, everyone deals with stuff like this! You’re not the only one, and the best thing to do is stay neutral. We all have to pick our own battles, so let your friends pick their own battles.