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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Amherst chapter.

My male cousin asked me what kind of boy was my type (as if I was going to tell him in front of my mother).  But, the truth is, I don’t have a type.

My mom tried to “play” me though, like I didn’t know what a “type” was, but I do.  I just don’t have one.

I am attracted to intellectuals, you know, nerds and stuff.  I like old-fashioned gentlemen (the ones that hold doors open, pull out your chair, blah blah blah). 

But he asked me if I like black guys, white guys, Asian guys, etc.  I almost snapped.  I feel so strongly about the subject of race and racism, and it kind of made me upset that he asked me that.

I definitely would not discriminate by race. Frankly, I am more about the personality than the looks.

Sounds corny.  But the soul is the important thing.

And frankly, a “type” only limits the potential of what you could get from a boyfriend.  I see it all the time. 

If you know me, appearances mean nothing to me.

Looks are VERY deceiving, and I don’t care how good you look, your personality must be a winner.

Or else, you’re just good-looking.

I finally realized why I hate being called pretty, beautiful, etc.  I don’t want to be complimented on my looks, but I want to be complimented on my personality, my heart, my soul, my wisdom, and my care for others.

If you say I have a beautiful soul, that’s fine.  But if you say I have a beautiful face, then I am insulted.

Weird, I know.  But I am not the average human/teenager, obviously.

And I’m OK with that.  

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