A few days ago, I was having dinner with my friend, Michael. Â We chatted about our futures including our job search and I mentioned I was considering two companies. Â He said one of the most important things anyone has ever said to me. Â “If you are sure about something, do it now. Â Then you don’t have to worry about it later.” Â
You see, I’m someone who worries about everything. Â I even worry about things I shouldn’t worry about and then worry about the fact that I’m worrying about it. Â For the most part, it makes me quite high functioning. Â I tend to do homework/projects in advance, always go to bed early and try to keep up a healthy lifestyle. Â However, it also means that I rarely take risks, even if the outcome can be beneficial. Â I hesitate to apply to certain high caliber jobs, tell a guy I have a crush on him or even tell someone that I disagree with a point they made in a conversation. Â My brain tends to do this weird thing where it gives me all the possible consequences for my actions and, of course, I dwell on all the negative. Â Which is why, when Michael said that to me, it really changed my way of thinking.
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I said to myself, why do I wait to act on something even though deep down I know what I want. Â What exactly am I protecting myself from by not taking that plunge sooner rather than later? Â I remember my advisor, Kaplan, said that there are some things we should “do now and ask for forgiveness later.” Â I think for other worriers like me, I want to give you this advice. Â If there is a tough decision you have to make, look deep inside and figure out what you really want and do it. Â Even if everyone wants you to do something else, remember it is your life not theirs. Â And if, let’s say in the case of a crush or a disagreement with friend, doesn’t turn out the way you expected, you can always be comforted in the fact that you acted in the way you thought was fit.Â
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Really, that’s all that matters.