Hey, collegiettes! It’s that time of year again. You know, that time of year when everyone is settled in, and we’re past the “honeymoon” phase of moving in with our new, or for some of us not-so-new roommates. Well, if you’re anything like most college students, you may have run into a few problems already. Forutnately, it does get better, or at least livable.
So, what to should you do or think to be a better roommate? Here’s a list of seven ways to be a good roommate.
1. Communicate. This cannot be stressed enough. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE. Communication is the key for a stress-free, argument-free, living space. That’s not to say that there won’t be any disagreements, but good communication can prevent a lot of problems. For example, if there’s something your roommate does that bothers you, you should tell them as soon as you get a chance. Of course, we all are busy, and sometimes cannot say something right away, but the faster you tell them, the faster there might not be an issue anymore. However, if there is an issue, don’t underestimate the power of your RA. RAs and RDs are there for a reason. Remember that. Sometimes you need a third party there to get a new perspective on the situation. Don’t be ashamed or think you can handle it on your own if your roommate suggests going to the RA, it might be a good idea for your situation. Embrace it. It happens to the best of us.
2. Be understanding. Whatever your roommate tells you, listen. As cliché as it is, realize that no one is perfect. No one. We may forget from time to time that they are allowed to mess up or have some quirky habits. It’s not the end of the world; you just have to adapt to the situation. If your roommate tells you they’re a light sleeper, adjust to that. The same goes if they stay up late, get up early, get up late, etc. The same goes for if they get cold easy or warm-blooded, and want to turn the air off or on. There’s a fine line between being understanding and being a pushover though. Don’t cross that line.
3. Set ground rules. Sometimes it’s necessary to have a few guidelines, especially if you’re butting heads or stepping on each other’s toes, figuratively speaking. This can be anything from picking a day to clean and picking who does what chores, like taking out the trash and recycling, to what to do when a friend comes over for a while. Roommate agreements don’t have to be super formal, but basic rules can be very beneficial.
4. Be respectful. You know that one song. That one old song by Aretha Franklin. R-E-S-P-E-C-T. A little respect can go a long way. You don’t want to be that one roommate that brings your whole group of friends over to party when your roommate’s trying to sleep. Or that roommate that keeps the light on when the other is trying to sleep. You don’t want to be loud when they’re trying to get some sleep either. You want to tentatively know their schedule, so you can adjust accordingly.
5. Put yourself out there. Talk. Strike up a conversation. Make small talk. You never know how it’ll go if you don’t try. You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate, but you should certainly be able to converse with them.
6. Have a heart to heart. Every once in a while, you need to just talk it out. Say whatever is on your mind, whatever you feel like saying, whatever you want to say. You could say what you like about having them as a roommate, what you don’t like, what bothers you, what your pet peeve is, what you like about your significant other, what you don’t like about them, or why your ex is your ex, to name a few. Not only will it feel good to get things off your chest, but it is a great bonding experience for the two of you.
7. Be a friend. By simply just being there for your roommate, it will be enough. You don’t have to be best friends either. Just be a friend. Be open. Be honest. You’re living together now, so you might as well like them or try at least.
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