When was the last time you were asked out on a date, an ACTUAL date? (And no, I don’t mean by your boyfriend, so stop bragging) I mean asked out by a guy who you don’t know and seems interested in you. Personally, I can’t think of a single friend that’s been approached by a guy to go out on a date in Boone.
Today, I feel like dates normally fall under two categories:
- Friends who turn into something more- the guy is a friend first who realizes he has stronger feelings, so asks the girl out.
- People that are setup- they had a mutual friend who thought they’d be perfect for a specific person and then make the magic happen.
Occasionally, a family member will ask me if I’ve been on any dates lately and I never really know what to say because I don’t know whether dates even exist anymore?
If it were up to me, I’d say they don’t. When my grandparents and parents were growing up, dating was the normal thing to do. If a guy thought a girl was pretty or nice, he’d ask her out. It was honestly pretty simple.
As I enter the second semester of my junior year, I can’t help but feel like a clock is ticking for me to find a boyfriend and I know I’m not the only one who feels that way; a lot of my friends do too. We all sit around and wonder where we’re going to meet our “future husbands,” if not on the campus of ASU. As easy as it would be to meet someone in the workplace, the number of males majoring in education, apparel, or PR is pretty slim.
I think that there could be a lot of good in bringing the dating scene back. Not every girl is blessed with a group of guy friends. Not every girl is in a sorority and has the chance to meet guys at mixers. Not every girl has “relationship material” guys in her classes.
Some say it’s easy, but I think that meeting good guys is hard.
I think I can speak for a lot of girls by saying that we want guys to ask us out! C’mon guys, step up to the plate! We want to be pursued, complimented and taken out on dates. We want you to make the first move, we want to know you like us, and we want to be wanted.
We want a dating revolution! (Okay, maybe I’m getting a little too into this…)
What I’m trying to say is: guys, don’t be afraid to ask us out. What’s the worst thing that could happen? We’d say no. Big deal! Life goes on. With all the single girls out there, a yes is much more likely.
Girls, is not just up to the guys. If you want a guy to ask you out, you at least have to be where guys are located. Putting yourself out there is the first step.
My fingers are crossed that one day—soon, hopefully—dating will come back into the picture. As for now, I’ll do what I can to find a man, and wait patiently for sparks.