Quality Vs. Quantity

There are two types of women out there — the relationship type girls and the single type girls. Sometimes we classify ourselves as being part of both worlds. Other times there are reasons we associate with one over the other. “You have to be able to adjust to circumstances by being flexible,” said Rachel Leavitt a creative writing junior. “You kind of have to play in accordance with the guy you’re interested in, if any.”
Yet when asked whether we prefer one or the other there inevitably is always one we lean toward. Whether you want to always be taken or want to always play the field there are pros and cons to the dating lifestyle we choose.
 

If you’re always looking for quality. . .
 
This is how girls are taught to reason about relationships. You are supposed to look for “Mr. Right” or the “perfect man.” And while you should always surround yourself with respectable prospects, sometimes too much quality can eliminate or narrow the basis of your dating standards. Think about it, if you are going from one long-term boyfriend to the next when are you giving yourself time to explore the variety of what is really out there?  Men can teach us about ourselves unintentionally. They can show us what we like, what we don’t like, what love is and what pain is. Just remember, you don’t have to be instantly labeled all the time. At the same time, quality is the ending quotient to those difficult mathematical-like rules of dating, especially as we age. In the end it is what we will want. We want our husband to be the one who treats us the best and as we mature we gain a better understanding of what to look for and what works for us. In essence, we know ourselves. “I’ve only had a few boyfriends that lasted 8-13 months each,” said Laura Nicole Niverson, an Italian and English junior. “Not everyone can find someone that treats you right.” So if you happen to find your version of “the one,” kudos to your method and hold on to him!
 
If you’re always looking for quantity. . .
 
You are the contemporary woman. There were times in history where a woman couldn’t do a thing without her man’s permission. Now, we women of today can be free to date, marry, sleep with, anybody they want. Women today control their dating options.  “I tend to be picky, so being single works for me,” said Caitlin McLuskie an English and history sophomore.“ Ultimately it depends on the woman and her actions.” However the downfall to the single girl is…yep you guessed it, the reputation you build. If you were living the Sex and the City lifestyle this wouldn’t matter but if you are living it while going to college at the UA guys may notice. If you’re sleeping with or trying to date everyone that gives you a glance you will eventually corner yourself. Everyone might begin to think they will get a chance to date you! Of course this is exaggerated but the world is smaller than we think. Also, being too available or easy can squash potential before it grows. Allow for some platonic relationship development before you’re on to the next one! To be single is empowering. It offers full independence in the dating world and is something every woman should explore!
 
Overall, either way you choose to live can be positive. With all choices in life, do what suits you in the end.