Thanksgiving is a time for family to come together, talk about what they’re grateful for, and most importantly, EAT. It can be nerve wracking for a lot of girls to go home and meet her boyfriend’s family, especially on a holiday when all of the family is around. Well, Her Campus is here to make it easy for you. Here are some tips and things to keep in mind while spending Thanksgiving with the boyfriend and his fam!
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Be yourself-Yes, as cliché as it sounds, be yourself. The more comfortable you seem with his family, the more comfortable they are going to be with you. Awkward silences occur when no one is talking, because most likely, they are just as concerned about meeting you. Don’t be afraid to laugh at people’s jokes and share a few of your own at the dinner table. Remember that it is just a meal and you have an excuse not to talk between bites.
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Dress appropriately-No, don’t dress like an old lady, but dress how you feel beautiful, not sexy, beautiful. If you feel stunning, like you’re dressed to impress, you’re sure to make a great first impression.
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Don’t drink-No, do not drink with the family. One sip of wine? Maybe. But do NOT get wasted in front of the family no matter if they offer you a second glass or not. Everything comes out when you’re a little tipsy, and they may find out a little more than they’d like to know. In order to avoid even getting yourself in this position, the better bet may be not to drink at all.
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Do NOT show too much PDA-That’s right, not everyone in the family wants to know what you do with your boyfriend behind closed doors. Yes, you may hold his hand. Yes, maybe a respectful hand on the knee. But no hands high up the knee, no kissing your boyfriends, ears, neck, or have a make-out session even really in private. Kiss on the forehead, head, face, maybe okay relaxing on the couch watching the football game, before you knock into a turkey coma, but that should be about it. Your boyfriend should also want you to make a great first impression.
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Do use your manners-This goes without saying. Table manners: yes please and no thank you are an obvious, but a must. Be courteous and gracious towards the family. Thank you after every sentence is what I do, maybe a little much, but I mean you can never be wrong. Clean up your mess, this goes without saying.
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Compliments– Throw a few compliments on the meal, compliment the house, maybe even the apron the mom is wearing. “You’re in great shape.” “I love your hair.” You get the gist of it, but don’t overdo it because then you will just look like you’re trying too hard, and they’ll probably feel like they’re lying. One line that really works is “You haven’t sat down yet, you should take a load off. If you want I can clean up for you.”
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Adhere to interrogation-Relax, you’re brand new, you are going to be bombarded with questions; People want to know about you, it’s a natural inclination to ask questions. Answer the questions in a relaxed fashion, and remain just as cool as they are asking you the question. If you want to take the attention off of yourself, maybe try and ask them some questions about themselves. Remember there may be a parent that tries to chew you out, maybe try to throw out a quick witted playful response because then they’ll think your funny, and can remain calm in these situations; this shows you have nothing to hide.
There you go ladies! Good luck on your journey and remember these tips that Her Campus has thrown your way! I’m sure you will then be welcomed into the family with open arms.