Yes, being friendzoned sucks – initially. You want someone, but they don’t want you “like that”. And yes, a lot of time, you can just get up and move along. However, for those very special few people, who after weeks or months of developing a solid friendship, which you unfortunately misread as a relationship, walking away from said person is particularly difficult. So, rather than giving up or hoping for something that won’t happen, you can actually maintain the friendship. Wait, what? Yes, there are perks to being friendzoned, you just have to look beneath the rejection and uncover the opportunity.
1. You have a new wingman or wingwoman.
This person didn’t work out. However, you wanted it to at first, and now that the times have changed, this person can help you find someone like them. Okay, the premise of the situation might be sadder than you intended. But, think about this: their single friends have similar traits, and they are probably a better version of the original goal. And now you have a wingfriend to help connect you. It’s an ideal result from a sticky situation.
2. You can be weird with this person, with no fear.
I have minimal self-control, so I tend to be weird with any and everyone. But for those with more classy exteriors, you can break down the walls and be your gross, absurd self. It’s awesome to be totally and completely free. Plus, I always find that the people most comfortable with themselves are the most fun to hang out with, so now you can be the fun friend they never knew they needed. Sweet!
3. You can finally be over your crush.
Coming from a person with so many crushes all the time – love is exhausting. Yes I’m aware that a crush is more of a “like-like” than true love, but either way, far too much effort is exerted. And, if you’re like me, once a friendzoning instance occurs, I tend to just move on to the next person who my eye catches. Basically, the down time is very little, but crucial. Embrace that feeling because it gives you time to reflect. To quote Hailee Steinfeld on this one, “I love me. Gonna love myself, no, I don’t need anybody else. Hey.”
4. You have a new friend.
You liked them for a reason and they wanted to stay friends with you for a reason. And while you may have to keep your hands to yourself when they’re around, your new friendship is a beautiful thing. You have another person to confide in, rely on, and sleep nearby. Yo, that’s awesome!