First things first, I’m not a relationship expert; I’m just a twenty-one year old girl who happens to be in her second long-term relationship. Although romantic relationship culture is dwindling down in our generation, many of us have still experienced relationship stress at some point or another. Relationship stress often leaves people with broken hearts. If you’re currently having trouble with your significant other, you might have had thought about “taking a break.” Keep reading to further evaluate whether or not taking a break is right for you…
1.Pro: you will have more time to focus on yourself, your goals, and your friends.
If your relationship is holding you back from living your own life, then a break is a good idea. You might even discover new ways to balance your other priorities, such as school, work, and friends.
2. Con: more distance means less intimacy.
Maybe your relationship issues are centered on not having enough time together or not feeling fully comfortable. If this is the case, don’t take a break. Removing the intimacy/closeness of the relationship will only make these problems worse.
3. Pro: you can see what’s out there.
If you’re having doubts about whether or not you’re with the right person, you might need a break from your relationship. This is (quite obviously) a much better option than cheating, because the communication between partners remains clear and honest.
4. Con: your s/o can hookup/date other people.
This goes with the last one…if you get to meet other people, then so does your significant other. Think about how this makes you feel. If your answer is extremely uncomfortable or sad, then the break is not worth it!
5. Pro: you might become a stronger couple.
Some couples are successful with taking breaks. It’s possible that a break is just what you need to grow and live as an individual. There are also many couples that split up because of circumstances (college, studying abroad, etc.) and reconnect later on in life.
6. Con: a break shows weakness in the relationship.
Needing to take a break can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. They can also leave room for doubt later in life because they question what a couple can and can’t handle together.Overall…there’s no black and white answer to whether or not you need a break in your relationship. Make sure to communicate with your partner to address all problems right when they start. If you pretend everything is fine or leave problems to pile up, that is how you’ll cause the most damage to your relationship. So talk to your s/o, and I wish you luck!
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