In Tswizzle’s most recent hit “Blank Space,” she belts, “Boys only want love if it’s torture.” Sorry, Swifties, but perhaps our girl has got this one wrong.
As we girls try to understand what it is boys are really looking for, it is often easy to lose our sense of self when societal norms seem to dictate who we are. As women, we should fit certain criteria, right? We should be thin, yet eat the fattest slice of whatever the Caf is serving on a given day to look like we don’t think twice about the food we put in our mouths. We should be intelligent, yet succumb to passivity when it can get us into trouble, such as during a disagreement with our boyfriends. We should be stylish, yet act like we just casually threw on whatever we could find in our closets and headed out the door looking nothing short of perfect. Right? Wrong.
Do you know the “cool girl”? Growing up, my friends and I would discuss her often. How do we become her? Does this mean we have to pretend to like football and beer? The conversations about the “cool girl” never ended because we thought that acting like the “cool girl” is what the boys wanted, and maybe it is.
The “cool girl” is generally thought of as that girl who knows the ins and outs of all sports. She likes to kick it back with the “guys,” eat loaded nachos and wings, and order whatever he’s having at the bar. She’s fun and she’s flirty. She doesn’t care about the fatty foods she’s ingesting. She’s an actress.
As we tried to embody the “cool girl”, we realized that she’s not all that cool. We really didn’t like greasy pizza and we didn’t understand anything about football. Besides, memorizing a few New York Giants players’ names and their stats took way too much effort.
We then realized that we were losing ourselves.
We are loud and we are opinionated. We’ll order whatever we want, not whatever he’s having. We’ll drink whatever we want to drink, whether it is a cup of beer, a glass of wine, or a straight shot of Tequila. We will get mad. We will feel depressed. We will be happy. We’ll feel anything and everything, and we won’t hide our emotions like the “cool girl” does.
Even if the “cool girl” always has a longer line of boys chasing her, don’t let this make you feel insecure, because the “cool girl” will always be there and she’s not going anywhere. But, if you want to eat pizza, hang out with the guys, and watch football, go for it. But do it because you want to. Remember, most of us are like Swift: “nightmares dressed like a daydream,” which may be more fun anyway.
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