  About two months I began dating my new girlfriend, Gwen. Everything about her is amazing, she is a great listener, funny, sweet, kind, and so on. The only problem is that Gwen and I are hiding our relationship. I have been out of the closet since high school while Gwen has been hiding in hers since freshmen year of college. Numerous guys hit on her and she flirts with them constantly to keep up her “Straight Girl” act while at school but when she’s with me she’s anything but fake. It is hard for me to watch her walk away and know that she lies about herself which makes me feel that she is ashamed of me and who we are together. I am falling hard for Gwen and I don’t want to hide our relationship forever, what do I do?
-Rachel
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     If Gwen is hiding the relationship you two have now, what else may she be hiding from you? Understandably, it can still be difficult for some of us to come out and reveal who we are due to scrutiny and our social groups. Gwen should be proud to have a girlfriend who adores her as much as you do and wants to stand by her although you may not agree with her hiding herself. Talk to her about how you feel and the potential future you two may have in order to see if she will change. If not, it is best to be serious and move on, as hard as that may be. Gwen needs support from you, but the support she needs most is from herself. Once she is comfortable with whom she really is, then that is when the relationship can really start. Until then you have to decide your own happiness, with or without Gwen.
Good luck!
XoXo
Sabby!
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