We’ve all been there, people are hurting you and you are so frustrated, but you aren’t sure how to handle it. So, when is enough enough? Here are 5 signs that it’s time to let go.
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Everything they do annoys you
This may seem like an obvious one, but too often we keep holding on to a relationship despite the fact everything about it annoys you. They might not be doing something wrong, but the mere thought of them causes you to lose your grip.
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They try to give you permission to feel or act a certain way
There are few things that bother me more than someone saying “you can feel however you want” or something comparable. The truth, yes, you are right, I can feel how I want. Ladies, this is such a manipulative thing for people to do. Nobody is entitled enough to give you permission to feel the way you do, and when someone tries, it is manipulative and time to let them out the front door of your life.
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They reach out randomly to say negative things
It’s one thing for an old acquaintance to reach out to say hi or check in. It is completely unacceptable for them to reach out months later to make you feel guilty or say negative things to you.
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They say they forgive you, but refuse to say why
This is literally sick. When people do this they are being so manipulative. If someone really forgives you, they want you to learn from your mistakes. You can’t learn from mistakes you don’t know you made though… So, when people refuse to tell you what you did wrong, or are vague and don’t provide examples, they are just trying to make you feel guilty.
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Everything they say is hypocritical
When you think about what they are saying and literally none of it makes any logical sense, it’s time to let go. When people are out to be a negative presence in your life, they get so caught up in their own world that nothing really makes sense anymore. So, everything they say becomes hypocritical and twisted. One lie covers another, covers another covers another…
It certainly isn’t easy to let go, but ultimately it’s in your best interest. Too often we tell ourselves that we are to blame, we just don’t understand, or that it’s just a phase when really it’s time to get rid of the bad vibes and toxic relationship.