It’s August of 2020, and my new life in Charleston is fast-approaching. I’ve come to the realization that A) I know literally nobody attending the college, besides people via the CofC Facebook page, and B) I’m awkward. What’s even more awkward is the fact that we all Instagram-stalk each other, yet get nervous saying “hi” to one another in passing down King street. Yeah, weird. So, being the expert that I am after a month and a half of living here, I have some tips and general suggestions to offer regarding the non-awkward introduction.
First, and most importantly, realize that we all are going through the same situation — experiencing the same awkward silence, not knowing how to start a conversation, and struggling to manage hanging out during a pandemic (especially when you can’t invite friends into your dorm). I’m lucky that my roommate and I are on the same page when it comes to socializing. We relentlessly try to make friends and often use one another as a buffer. Whether it be starting a Snapchat conversation with that girl in your Spanish class or messaging that guy about where the test is on Friday, be the one to initiate. Even having these classmates to have small talk with during your nine AM is so relieving. These simple Snapchats have led to good conversations, which then can lead to a meetup at a cute restaurant downtown or walking to the library Starbucks together.
This advice definitely seems so obvious, but when group activities are prohibited (for obvious, understandable reasons), you have to go the extra mile yourself — and that can be difficult. If you question whether or not you should wave at someone you think you may know while walking around campus, just do it. Sit in the dining hall together. Walk to class if you’re in the same dorm. Help each other with homework. Everybody feels the same way, so any kindness will go a long way and maybe will even be passed on.
In no way am I encouraging non-socially distanced activities. Obviously, all of this advice comes with precautions. Wear your mask, wash your hands, and keep your damn distance. There’s no need to talk to somebody right up in their face anyway. I am simply here to encourage you and remind myself to be the one to initiate conversations and attempt to make new friends. We could all use (and be) one!