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10 Things You Can Do To Make Your Mom Feel Loved When You Visit

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The thing I always look forward to most is seeing my mom when I visit for holiday break. Having to be away from her has been so difficult, and I know she is missing me and my sister so much. This applies to anyone in your life: a dad, grandma, sister, grandpa, or anyone who is important to you! With this being said, here are a few things you can do to make your mom feel loved when you visit.

Take Her Out To Coffee

When I visit home, I love waking up early and getting a drink from a local coffee shop. I usually go after a morning run or grab one with hometown friends, but when I go home this next time I will 100% force my mom to go with me. It is such a cute and easy activity to bond with your mom over. My mom loves coffee and coffee shops are always super cute! This is so attainable to do a couple of times when you go home, and I know your mom will feel special if you make the effort to go with her instead of friends. 

Cook Her Dinner

My mom is very good at cooking; she can find almost anything in our kitchen and whip something delicious up. But, cooking is a hassle–even for someone that loves doing it. Take your siblings with you and head to the grocery store. Get ingredients for your mom’s favorite meal and surprise her with a home-cooked meal. I think this could be so easy to do a couple times a week and it’s something you can include your sibling(s) on, if you have any! Making the table and finishing the last touches on the meal can spice things up and get you in the holiday spirit too! 

Go On A Walk With Her

My town has lots of hikes, trails, and areas to walk. I always make it a mission to go on AT LEAST one walk or hike with my mom when I visit home. I think it’s a great time to trama dump about college, and let her talk about what’s been going on in her life as well. You can even take your dogs out with you and make it a family trip! Being out in nature is always a plus and relieves stress. Going on a morning or evening stroll with your mom is such an easy, free experience to have with her. 

Listen to Her Work Drama

My mom has a very stressful job, as I am sure lots of moms do. We always get to vent about our friend issues or troubles scheduling classes, but when was the last time you let your mom vent about what is going on with her? I think allowing her to talk about her work or friend issues is so valuable–I mean, all relationships should be a two-way street. Listening is such a good way to let someone know you care about them and what goes on in their life. 

Do Her Makeup

My mom is the type to not wear lots of makeup; she will just slap on some mascara and powder and she is good to go. I’ve been able to convince her to let me do her makeup a couple of times, for work events or dinner parties. I always notice how happy she is when she has a full beatdown. This doesn’t have to just be makeup, though; you could go full out and do her hair, nails and pick a cute outfit for her. This is such a cute way to bond with your mom and you can even teach her some new, trendy makeup or hairstyle tricks. 

Make her A Burr Basket

I know we have all seen this trend on TikTok– making a Burr Basket for your significant other, friend, or sibling–but why don’t you spice it up and make one for your mom? Get her a basket of things like her favorite snacks, a fluffy blanket, new makeup, candy, and a gift card, and surprise her with this thoughtful gesture! Moms are so used to getting everyone else things, so I think it’s so nice to surprise her with something for her. By getting her things you know she will get use out of, you will show her that you listen to what she likes. 

Plan A Movie Night

My family loves movie nights; it’s usually paired with dinner that my mom made, and we all collectively agree on a movie, or we switch off on who picks. Moms are usually such people-pleasers, that every movie we suggest, they will agree on. So next time you watch a movie, let her pick, or pick out a movie you know she loves. Make some popcorn and snacks and spend some quality time with your mom. You could even switch it up and take her out to a movie. Going to the movie theater is such a nostalgic moment, and my family always loves to go out to a movie. So let your mom pick out the movie, get her some snacks, and enjoy the night out. 

Deep Clean The House For Her

Cleaning isn’t anyone’s favorite, but who has been up-keeping the house while you’ve been away… probably your mom!  So when she goes to the grocery store, or heads to work, let her come home to a perfectly clean house! Do the dishes, clean out the fridge, mop, vacuum, and do the little chores that are so dreadful to do. This can be so simple and what better to do than help out your mom where you can? She will probably be so grateful and relieved that she doesn’t have to come home to extra work to do. 

Write Her A Love Letter

When I left for college, I left little letters and sayings hidden around the house for my mom to find on different occasions. Little words of affirmation are a great way to show her you care! Before you leave, set up a bunch of mini notes, saying things like “Miss you!,” “ILY” and “Call me!” When I did this, my mom would send me pictures of the ones she found and I could tell it made her feel so special! This is such an easy way to make her feel loved and valued, from miles away. 

Just Spend Time With Her

Quality time with your loved ones is so important. Friends come and go, but your family is forever. So, with this holiday season coming up, I really urge you to prioritize spending time with your mom, dad, or other special people in your life, rather than hang out with your hometown friends every night. 

The most important and simple thing to remember is just spend time with your mom because she has been waiting to see you ever since you left! Family is so important! Make your mom feel loved and valued when you visit this winter break!

Audrey Martinez is a first-year Environmental Management and Protection Major at Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo. She loves the environment and hopes to be working to help protect animals and habitats in the future. She has also always loved how powerful and important journalism can be!