Boys. Can’t live with them, but can’t live without them. I have a harder time understanding them than I did with Human Nutrition (don’t judge me ok). Have you ever wondered what goes on in their simple yet extremely complicated heads?
Well, I have harassed all of my guy friends to tell me three things they wish girls knew about them. Surprisingly, most of the answers were on the same page. Let’s take a look at what guys wish girls knew.
1. Girls need to be open with how they’re feeling.
– “Oftentimes we’re bad at reading subtext or picking up signals. To a certain extent we can do it but often times girls can be angry at their boyfriend and he’ll have no idea why. Sometimes he won’t even know she’s mad. Openness and honesty is important to most guys in a relationship. This is college, not middle school. It’s time to cut the pouting and sulking and talk to each other when something’s bothering you so we can find a way to fix it and make you feel better.”
– “We actually are just thinking about nothing sometimes.”
– “Guys will never understand you.”
2. Guys try to act a lot cooler than they are.
– “Some (actually all of us) have large egos and we don’t like constant criticism.”
– “Approaching girls can be intimidating and a lot of times guys don’t know whether to make a move or not because they don’t want to ruin a friendship.”
-“Also, every dude acts like they just wanna hook up with people in front of their friends but deep down everyone’s looking for something more than that.”
– “We kinda put effort into our appearance sometimes.”
3. Girls should NOT be afraid to make the first move!
– “It’s not a turnoff for girls to make the first move. We won’t be intimidated. On the contrary, it’s like proof that the girl is interested in you and it’s actually a big turn on.”
– “Asking us out relieves the stress of always taking the initiative. And it lets us know you’re interested.”
– “If he doesn’t make first move, do it yourself. It’s hot.”
– “Guys like when girls are forward.”
Other interesting responses included:
-“Don’t be needy or helpless. We like to feel relevant but not your caretaker.”
-“If you want to text him, text him. Don’t wait ten minutes in-between texts to not sound desperate; it’s annoying AF.”
-“There are nice guys out there.”
-“Personality is actually a huge turn on. Hot girls who act like they’re too cool aren’t attractive.”
-“Guys really like to cuddle.”
-“Mean Girls is a great movie.”
Can we finally divide and conquer now that we understand their point-of-view? May the odds be ever in your favor.