The 6 Types of College Freshman Relationships
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1. The âIâm Still With the Love of My Lifeâ
Everyone one on campus knows that person that is still clinging to their high school relationship. They call them every other day and skype whenever they have a free minute. Theyâve probably been together for a good year or so and are convinced they are the only ones that will ever withstand a long-distance relationship. Granted, it is romantic and heartwarming to know that theyâre trying to keep this love alive even though theyâre 300 miles apart, the relationship is usually in the ground within a month of classes starting.
2. The âIâve Just Lost the Love of My Life and Need to Reboundâ
Hallcest. The almost-inevitable college experience. If you arenât in a relationship coming into college, and especially if youâve just been dumped, youâll probably catch the eye of the cutie across the hall. Youâre vulnerable, college is new and scary, and you really need that security you had with your ex. Youâll start by hanging out with everyone else and then youâll start âdoing homeworkâ together, when, in reality, youâre just watching movies and making out. If youâre lucky enough, your roommate will walk in with things start getting a little more serious. From there, the situation ends up getting awkward (because, ya know, you live 10 feet from each other) and you just try to avoid eye contact for the next eight months.
3. The âWeâre Not Dating But Probably Will in Two Weeksâ
They arenât even remotely expected to date, but once they do, the entire hall is ecstatic. The couple start isolating themselves from the group of friends on the hall, obviously to spend time together. Similar to hallcest, they start watching movies alone, but they actually enjoy each otherâs company. The whole hall is overjoyed theyâre a âthingâ, and canât wait to see where this goes.
4. The âI Canât Even Think About a Relationshipâ
Youâre in a sport, involved with undergraduate research, in a comedy club, on the Class Council, in Spectrum, and want to be involved with orientation this summer. Your classes are new and confusing and difficult and college is asking so much of you and youâre giving it your everything. However, the only relationship youâre looking for right now is with copious amounts of coffee and the comfy chairs in Einsteinâs. Itâs not that youâre distant or wonât ever be interested; you just know that you wouldnât be sleeping if you were also in a relationship. Youâre smart and know that your health is more important than the adorable person in your Spanish class.
5. The âGod, Sexuality is Confusingâ
Throughout high school, you mostly dated guys. Nothing ever felt right, but you werenât sure why. Being in a relationship with a boy just never made your heart flutter. Everyone told you about how college is for experimenting, so you go for it. Itâs confusing and difficult at first because letâs be honest, pretty girls are intimidating. Maybe you go on a few dates, kiss your first girl, and really get acquainted with this new feeling. You embrace it and feel thoroughly excited to âexperienceâ instead of âexperimentâ.
6. The âIâm Dating Meâ
You JUST got out of a relationship no less than a month before classes started. It was a really rough break-up and you havenât been single since 8th grade, so being alone is not really your forte. You discover, though, that you really donât know anything about yourself because youâve been with people the majority of your adolescence. Instead of chasing after another relationship, you date yourself. You take yourself out for movies and dinners and really discover yourself and your interests. Needing someone is overrated and you take as much time as you need to commit to someone again.
Regardless of what anyone else says, all of these situations are valid. You are in college to discover yourself and what you like in other people. Date everyone, date no one, just have a good time and make sure youâre happy. Everyone deserves to feel safe and happy, regardless of relationship status.