We’ve been playing peek-a-boo with the sun these last few weeks, but pretty soon it will be warm, sunny and time to hit the beach and the streets. Some people break up with their mate’s right as the seasons change as for summer is the time to be single and carefree. So whether it’s you giving the “it’s not you, it’s me” spill or you’re on the receiving end, here’s how to make the most of warm weather and move on!
5. Pack it up:
Don’t sit around staring at the stuff you’ve accumulated over the time from him (or her). Gather all the teddy bears, photos, cards and jewelry and put it someplace where it won’t remind you of them. And don’t do like it’s done in the movies and return the stuff to its rightful owner, what good will that do? Until you’re fully over him, don’t torture yourself with the mementos.
4. No bad-mouthing:
Sure, it’s natural that once you have a break-up, it’s time to trash talk your ex. Truthfully, if the person was that bad, what does that say about you? Apparently something was wrong with one of you, that’s why you aren’t together now. Keep it positive. You never know, the break-up could be temporary and you don’t want to look silly telling your friends you’re back with a person you were trash talking days before.
3. Don’t pig out:
I had a ex tell me that once we broke up, he wished I gained 800 lbs. Well, lucky me I didn’t but I sure wasn’t doing much to prevent it. Not just for appearance but for overall health, try exercising or getting fresh air to help you heal. Staying cooped up in the house won’t help the situation. If he left you, nothing better than to hit the gym and show him what he’s missing. Bikinis go well with exes envy in the summer time.
2. Do for you:
Remember those things he didn’t want you to do or that you couldn’t find time to do when you were together? Well, now is the time to do them. Often in relationships, compromises are made because the other person is selfish or you couldn’t find time to break away to do them. And remember to take priority in your own life.
1. Rebound:
I hear it all the time, “give yourself time to breathe,” “Don’t jump into something else too quickly.” Now, by all means, this doesn’t mean if you’re getting out of a tragic relationship, don’t take your baggage and emotional rollercoasters into a new partnership. But don’t hold off on finding the right person for you falling into the do not rebound hype. If moping and sitting in solitude isn’t your coping method, then don’t do it. Maybe all you need is someone who makes you happy and shows you what you were missing. Granted, this relationship might not be the one that leads to bliss, but who’s to say the other way will? Remember, it’s about you.