I know that I tend to have a hard time saying no to people, especially those I really care about or respect. I’ve certainly gotten better throughout my time here at Davidson. Being able to say no without it weighing heavy on your conscience later is really important. It’s okay to be a little selfish sometimes and put yourself first if it’s really what is best for you at that time. This is applicable to school (you don’t ALWAYS have to do EVERY assignment; President Quillen said so herself), dating, family, and friends. Here are 5 easy steps to get you on your way to a happier, less stressed life.
1. Assess the situation
Sit down for a moment and really think what’s best for you.
2. Make a mental checklist
Obviously, you can amend your checklist if need be. But I wouldn’t recommend it. I mean clearly this list is the secret to success.
3. Ask yourself if saying yes is what’s best for you
If you honestly think that saying yes to whatever it is you’re being asked to do is not the best for your mental well-being, your short or long-term goals, then you must say no. At this point, you also have to give yourself permission to say no.
4. The important part: saying no
A) The run away
B) The direct
C) The obscure
D) The explosion
I reserve this one for people who always ask me for unreasonable things and are continuously ungrateful
C) The trickster
5) Don’t offer an explanation if unnecessary
Aubrey Plaza probably has zero problems saying no
IMPORTANT: there are some things you kind of just have to say yes to. Like midterms (unfortunately) or cleaning the spaces you share with your roommate(s). However, you don’t have to pick everyone up from the airport who asks you (especially not for free) or help peer edit five friends’ papers when you haven’t even written yours. Plus, saying no sometimes allows you to take care of yourself so that you’re better equipped to say yes the next time.