I was not feeling certain about a topic I wanted to write about for publication this week. My solution in this situation was to think of something that brought joy to my life recently. This thought was answered immediately by memories of my family and how much I miss them. I am not sure why, but this semester I miss my siblings and my mom so much more than I have in previous semesters. Actually this may have to do with the bonding that took place during quarantine back in the spring. While my sister and I were locked down at my mom’s trying to finish our semester’s course work and my mom worked long hard hours at the hospital, one of our non-work activities was flipping through my mom’s photo albums. We fell into a routine: at 6 my mom would get home from work and immediately take a shower, Ruth and I would close the text books and return the work space back to kitchen space, and one of us would start dinner while the other made cocktails. It was during cocktail hour that we would play bananagrams, watch YouTube, or sift through an album. The albums were the best, but we only had so many so we wanted to savor them. During her 20s (which is the age Ruth and I are now) my mom traveled and worked and, thankfully, took many photos. Her three albums consist of photos from training in the Grand Canyon, teaching in Guatemala, dressing up for historical reenactments in Death Valley, and working in Cape Cod.
She was a park ranger… that should explain the locales. It was really inspiring to see the work my mom did before she had us kids. It showed me what matters to her, how she expresses herself, what relationships look like to her. And as I move farther away from my childhood, it is good to have this perspective as my relationship with my mom moves from parent:child into adult:adult. We also had fun looking at what facial features we can match to our own. It seemed that on every third page my mom would point out a dude that she dated, and they were some good looking men! My favorite photo is one of my mom swimming in a lake in the rainforest of Guatemala. She looks so happy and fresh and beautiful. This all reminds me that my 20s are valuable times. I am young and healthy. I am well educated. I have opportunities. I can travel. I can make new friends and new memories. I can decide what is important to me and how my values will be represented in my life. And a lot of this I have to thank my mom for! So whether it is documented via Instagram, physical photo albums, disposable camera rolls, or photos in a shoebox, I am determined to live a beautiful life that I can be proud of and share with my loved ones.Â