This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Denison chapter.
A Freshmen Guide to Mixers
Ellie Toth
It’s official. You’ve joined the sorority of your dreams, you’re meeting so many new
girls and you are so excited for everything new to begin. Mixers? That’s not nerve
wrecking, you’ve been to parties before; however, these can be a whole different
experience. They can be scary, overwhelming and all around intimidating. Here are
some tips to help you enjoy your first mixers!
1. Upperclassmen boys will give you a lot of attention. Don’t have
expectations.
Let’s face it, you’re new meat. All the upperclassmen boys love hitting on
freshmen girls. They look at you as naïve, vulnerable and easy targets. While
it can be super fun to get all the attention, be weary that these guys are not
looking for any sort of commitment. Enjoy the attention, have fun with
someone new, but make sure you are not expecting these guys to be your
prince charming. As Charlotte says in Sex and the City, “maybe our girlfriends
are our soulmates, and guys are just people to have with.” Isn’t this why you
joined a sorority in the first place? However, if you happen to find the love of
your life at a mixer, disregard all of this.
2. Wear an outfit that you feel comfortable in!
After trying on about 17 different outfits, you may be ready to give up
and wear your pajamas. It can be difficult to find an outfit that makes you
feel great; however, don’t settle for anything that doesn’t make you feel
like you! You may think you’re outfit is too conservative one night or too
revealing another night, but the more insecure you feel about your outfit,
the more insecure you’ll feel about yourself. Find an outfit that makes you
feel completely confident. It won’t matter if someone else thinks it’s too
conservative or too revealing, as long as it is perfect for you! The better you
feel in your outfit, the better you will feel about yourself!
3. Monitor your alcohol consumption.
You may think that you know how to handle your liquor and there’s nothing
to worry about; however, we all have bad nights when we lose control.
Don’t think that you have to drink more to feel more comfortable. The more
alcohol you consume will actually make you more uncomfortable, even if
your drunken self doesn’t think so. Just know your limit and know when it’s
time to stop drinking. No freshman wants to be known as “the girl who gets
too drunk.” Be smart.
4. Make sure to bond with your new sisters!
While the boys may be distracting from trying to meet your new sorority
sisters, make an effort to get to know all the new girls in your life. It may feel
overwhelming and you will not be close with everyone, but this is a perfect
time to get to know them and see who you click with. It can also be a great
time to figure out who would be a good Big for you! Have fun and get to know
as many girls as possible because they definitely want to get to know you.
Remember these tips when you’re getting ready for your first mixer soon.
Enjoy your first mixers, and first couple of weeks as Greek women!