Finishing uni is an important part of all of our lives. It’s a time of change, of new things. So what does that mean for relationships that have blossomed during your three years here in Durham? Maybe you’re taking up a job in London and they’re staying up here for a Masters? Perhaps you’ve got a solid five-year plan in the UK and they’re off travelling with their mates? I caught up with the finalists of Durham to hear what they envisaged would happen to their Durham relationships over the next few months.
Samantha: We got together at the end of my second year when he was a Fresher (cougar, I know) and whilst I’ve had the best time with him since then, there’s the obvious problem of him being up here for another year while I head back to Bristol. I call it a problem because for me it is a problem, but I know for lots of other people distance isn’t something that particularly bothers them too much. If I’m being honest with myself, I don’t see myself being with him for the rest of my life, so maybe it’s time to move on to pastures new in more than one way.
Dani: My girlfriend and I have been together around six months now, we got together in our final year after being friends during first and second year. She’s staying on to do a teaching qualification here whereas I’ll be based in Sheffield for the foreseeable future. We’ve talked about it a lot together and we both agree that Sheffield isn’t that far away, or at least not far enough away for us to throw away what we have together! We’re happy right now and until that changes I don’t see a point in discussing breaking up.
Sophie: We’ve been through all three years of university together, and to get through something like that is a pretty great achievement if you ask me. Yes, we’ve had our ups and downs and yes we get sick of the sight of each other sometimes. But if we’ve done it for this long then surely we can do it for a bit longer.
Zoe: Considering my boyfriend and I were looking at flats together in London today, I’d say we’re pretty set on staying together!
Amanda: It’s quite tricky for me because I’ve only been with my current boyfriend in Durham for a few months and I’m moving back to my hometown where my most recent ex lives. There are still feelings there with this ex I think and being closer to him than my current boyfriend will be difficult. Maybe I should end it now before I go home and potentially hurt him.
(Please note: these are not the real names of the people interviewed for this article!)
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