The hotly debated subject of whether you can ever be truly friends with an ex is a question that haunts many. It is a question as old as time, one that is frequently anguished, fretted over and often followed by the requisite “it will only end in tears”. Images of crazy ex-girlfriends stalking your new flame are common, as are those happy families where wife 1 and wife 2 are the best of friends. So what do you really think? Can you ever be proper friends with an ex? Her Campus Exeter bravely decided to pave the way for the difficult task of broaching the subject of exes and whether friendship can ever be on the cards amongst the strapping lads of Exeter. Here are the surprising responses!
Most instinctive responses to our question resulted in a definite “NO”. A Lafrowda fresher even went as far to say that “it would be out of the question, you broke up so why keep in touch?” This may seem like a harsh response, but he did continue to mention that “you were hurt once so why prolong the pain” making us swoon with the romance. Another bashful hockey player, revealed that “although it would seem like a nice way to remember the fun times you shared, it would invariably be difficult and somewhat awkward in reality”. It seems that although most share the opinion that is might not be the best solution, there is some thought behind it and not just pig headedness! Continuing our search in the Forum, a group of Penny C lads, claimed that friendships with exes “never ended well” justifying that although you want to remain friends sometimes “a clean break is what is truly recommended”.
In an effort to try and view the other side of the proverbial coin relating to exes, we interviewed a notorious Casanova who has indeed kept in touch with his. He questioned, “why end a decent friendship just because your intimate relationship has ended?” A valid point, however, “emotions do often get involved,” he hastened to add. Now we don’t want to go all How I Met Your Mother 2.0 with these friendships, but it is poignant to mention that in a place as small as Exeter, sometimes it might be easier not to burn your bridges when your relationships end.
It is a tricky situation, which definitely needs to be handled with care. When a relationship ends you are losing a friend as well so if possible try to remain amicable, even if friendship is off the cards. The Exeter Lads did raise a strong argument for an easy life, limiting contact for a clean break. As you are bound to run into your Ex in TP, just one piece of advice: becoming enemies with your Ex is NEVER a wise choice!
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