When you’re having just one of those down days, there’s nothing better than a catch up with one of your friends, right? Well no, sometimes wrong, all wrong!
It could be your oldest friend, the girl you’ve known since you were both in nappies, or maybe the girl you’ve known since that first night out in Freshers’ when you were holding back each other’s hair. But sometimes, for no apparent reason, your friends seem to get on your every nerve and their company seems like the worst possible thing you could imagine. We’ve all been there and HCX is here to give you some advice when it seems like you’re falling out of love with your friends.
1. “The Needy Friend”
This girl always wants to meet up for a coffee, never seems to stop texting you and won’t leave you alone on a night out. When you do see each other, she won’t stop until she finds out everything that’s been going on with you since the last time she saw you, even if that was only yesterday. You might find yourself snapping at this friend or just being short with her because she comes on a bit strong.
If you’re in a bad mood, maybe it’s not a great idea to meet up, she probably won’t want to spend time with someone whose only half there anyway. But think twice before completely ditching this girl, she genuinely cares and while she might be a bit intense, she’ll be there for you when times get hard.
2.“The Absent Friend”
You’ve made plans whether it’s a group meal, a night out, a scary movie marathon or even a one-on-one coffee date, and she’s committed, guaranteed 100% she’s going to be there. Only, an hour or so (if you’re lucky) before the event’s due to take place, you’ll get a text from this girl: she’s so sorry, but she can’t make it. If this becomes a routine performance, you’re entirely justified to stop texting this girl. WARNING: this girl can easily be confused with a friend in need, if you recognise one of your friends genuinely struggling with something, be there for them. But if their excuses range from they’re too hungover to make an effort or they’ve double booked themselves again, something is definitely not right.
If the relationship means anything to her, she’ll notice your cold shoulder and start making an effort to win you back. If not, there’s no need to worry she obviously wasn’t a great friend anyway.
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3. “The Crying Friend”
She’s always keen for a night out, she’s the loudest one at pres and when she’s in the club she’ll have everybody dancing and having a good time … until about eleven. Then for what seems like no reason at all, unstoppable and apparently endless tears will come. Her tears demand attention and suddenly the night is over as you’re locked in a toilet cubicle providing moral support and tissue from the dispenser. This can get annoying.
But, although over-emotional, this girl hasn’t really done anything wrong; so don’t decline invitations for a night out just because waterworks are likely on the cards. Talk to your other friends before the night-out, a rota of who’s in charge of the tears that night can easily be arranged!
4. “The Social Climber Friend”
This girl has more friends on Facebook than anyone you know, is part of societies that you didn’t even know existed, and is constantly being tagged in photos at the coolest places. She’s cool, she’s fun, she’s edgy and when you meet up you get along like a house on fire. But holding onto a friendship with a BNOC can be harder than you think. If she’s got another offer from someone more important on her social scale then she’ll disappear, climbing that social ladder right to the top.
While this can seem quite hurtful, don’t let it get to you too much – this girl does want to be your friend, she just wants to be friends with everybody. Don’t invest too much in this friendship but always hold on to her number, there’ll always be an occasion when you can have fun with this girl.
5. “The Friend From Home”
One of the hardest relationships to maintain at university is the long-distance one. We’re talking the big one, you and your best mate from home. The girl you swapped BFF necklaces with in Year 8, who’s stayed round your house so many times she’s like a lodger, who you can text after every episode of MIC and know that she’ll agree with everything you’ve just said. When you go to university, making new friends is obviously important and throwing yourself into university life is essential. But make sure you never forget the girl at home who was always there for you when you needed her, make time for Skype dates and phone calls, invite them down for a visit or if you can go and visit them wherever they might be.
When you do go back home, there’s nothing worse than realising you’ve broken all your old ties when you could be slipping back into routines with friends you’ve had since before you’ve had bras.
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